Archive for February, 2008

Moms With Muscle Giveaway

Monday, February 11th, 2008

Brought to you by The Well Mom & Ladies Who Launch

Contest runs February 13, 2008 through March 1st, 2008


Five sets of Julie B’s “Moms With Muscle” resistance training DVD series will be given away in a random drawing.  Sign up for The Well Mom weekly email to enter to win.  Contestants will include new and existing registrants for The Well Mom weekly email.  Must be over 18-years-old to be eligible to win.  Winners will be contacted by The Well Mom, Inc. to release mailing information for shipping.  Product will be shipped by JulieBFitEnterprises, LLC.  Good luck!

*Please remember to consult with your doctor before beginning any new exercise program.
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Learn more about Julie’s inspiring transformation from frumpy mom of three to fitness trainer and fabulous role model on her website  www.juliebfit.com and browse her secrets to staying strong & healthy on The Well Mom.

Valentine’s Day Unplugged

Monday, February 11th, 2008

By Heather Cabot, Editor-in-Chief, The Well Mom
Forget the expensive chocolates.  Forgo the flowers. This Valentine’s Day, defy expectations by doing something so daring your sweetheart will be begging for more.  I’m talking about a gesture so wildly romantic and heartfelt, he or she will remember it for years to come.  And it doesn’t cost a thing.  All it takes is switching off the power.valentine
 
Yes, my fellow “CrackBerry” carrying, cell phone toting, text sending friends, it is time to give the people you love a real gift this holiday…your undivided attention.  So here’s a novel idea, turn it off.  Just do it.
 
I’m not saying we need to be off-line for the entire day.  In fact, many romantics will be turning to the web this week to look for amorous recipes, to order gifts or e-cards and of course, to send mushy emails.  My friends at Yahoo! conducted a recent V-Day poll and found that 21% of Americans think it’s romantic to say, “I love you” via text.  That’s cute. But what I really want and what I would guess most of my friends desire, is some quality time with my husband – without the usual distractions.  I’m going to go out on a limb here and suggest that guys probably feel the same way – even if it is just for a precious hour or two.
 
Yes, it might sound strange that a multi-tasking mom like myself, whose very business exists in cyberspace, could encourage my fellow tech addicted friends to unplug.  But I’m not saying do it forever.  What I am suggesting is that we could make a bold statement of love and affection by taking our eyes off that smart phone while sitting down for a romantic evening and actually gazing into our beloved’s eyes instead of the usual darting downward every three seconds to check email…Or how about putting the family laptop aside or letting your cell go to voicemail while coloring valentines with the kids?
 
Being in constant contact has become so ingrained in our daily lives, that it is hard to break away.  Believe me, I feel your pain.  Before I had children, while I was still working as a news reporter, my husband nicknamed me “Crack” for my inability to switch the damn thing off.  And now, as a mom in pursuit of wellness, I think a lot about how managing technology in our lives has become a very daunting challenge, especially because the Internet and mobile technology have given way to so many new opportunities for flexible work schedules.  In countless ways, email, voicemail, instant messaging, etc. make it possible for a lot of people to juggle professional and personal commitments.  But we cannot lose sight that even such liberating and time-saving innovations can tip the work-life balance away from the priorities we set in the first place.  That’s the reason a Canadian government ministry recently directed its employees to observe a BlackBerry blackout from 7am to 7pm AND on weekends and holidays.  Now that is a cool idea.
 
So how about implementing our own blackout this Valentine’s Day?  Let it be a tiny step towards disentangling ourselves from the electronic devices that rule our lives.  Whether it is your sweetheart, children, parents or anyone else you really care about, show them the love by really listening and engaging without all of those ringing, blinking, buzzing interruptions.  And I don’t mean set the phone on mute.  Really turn it off.  You can see what you missed after the candlelit dinner.  Whatever the message, can it really be more important than spending quality time with your special someone?

Let’s Talk About Sex

Monday, February 11th, 2008

sexThe Well Mom knows many moms expect that intimacy will take a back seat after children come into our lives.  It isn’t easy when you and your partner are so overwhelmed with your new roles as parents.  But sex therapist and educator Dr. Laura Berman, says we shouldn’t give into the myth that passion will inevitably fade away.  Instead, the author of “The Passion Prescription” says it requires a mind shift…and some effort.

Here are some of Dr Berman’s tips to lift your libido despite your sleep deprived, over-scheduled life:
 
1. Even if you’re tired, try to have sex. The more you have sex, the more you’ll want to do it as your body responds accordingly.
 
2. Don’t think that every time you have sex it has to be wild. Even a simple quickie will do the trick.  It’s comfortable for you and gets the job done for both you and your partner
 
3. Increase sexy feelings at bedtime by giving your bedroom a makeover. Remove clutter and television sets and don’t bring your work to bed, so that the bedroom becomes a haven for your and your partner.
 
4. Try to regulate your sleep schedule with your partner’s. Going to bed at the same time allows a perfect opportunity for intimacy.

sexDr. Laura Berman, LCSW, Ph.D., is the director of the Berman Center, a specialized health care facility in Chicago that’s dedicated to helping women repair their sex lives and find relief from menopausal symptoms.  Dr. Berman is also an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and obstetrics/gynecology at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University.  Check out her blog, “The Art of Intimacy” on Yahoo! Health.

V-Day Wish List

Saturday, February 2nd, 2008

By Tammy Gibson, Founder, A Mom In Red High Heels.com
In light of the romantic holiday just around the corner, I’ve put together a She Said/ He Said Wish List to inspire you and your partner to really give the gifts you both really want.  Not brave enough to speak up for fear of hurting his feelings?  Then just print up this article and leave it lying out.  If he asks you about it, tell him you printed it to get gift ideas for HIM!

She Said…

Dearest Hubby,

It’s another year, another Valentine’s Day!  I’m happy for the occasion to celebrate our love and lives together.  I do, however, have a few small suggestions regarding gifts this year.  Instead of buying me some see-through, lacy, barely-there outfit that I’ll never wear again (we DO have kids that climb in bed with us fairly often, remember?) or a pound of chocolate that only adds pounds to my hips, how about one of these?

1. Body care products that allow me to feel like the goddess I am.  Naughty Mommy Body Care has a very sensual scent that will leave me feeling relaxed and desirable.  Doesn’t the name alone make you desire me more?
2. Couples Massage. It’s something for both of us to enjoy.  Oh, and don’t forget to book the babysitter when you make the massage appointment!
3. Sleepwear that I’ll really wear again but sexy enough for you to enjoy.
4. Freshly cut flowers.  Don’t spend $100 on a dozen roses that will die quickly!  Buy me fragrant wild flowers that will last and last…Then, buy me a gift card to Sephora with the money you saved! 
5. Jewels. Yes, diamonds would be fabulous.  But I know the diapers, formula and college savings have sucked up any hope of sparking baubles in my near future!  How about some fabulous earrings* that I can wear everyday to draw attention to my eyes that you think are beautiful?  
6. Give me a time out.  Some time alone to browse the bookstore, shop for shoes or just sit with a mask on my face would be cherished.

Regardless of the actual gift you give, I know you love me!  Give me one of these gifts, and I’ll know you hear me and that is the best gift of all!
XOXO!
Your Wife

*use coupon code WELLMOM for free shipping through 2/28/08

He Said…

Hey Hot Wife,

Happy Valentine’s Day, Sexy!  I can’t wait to spend a great evening with you that ends very late at night! (hint, hint)  When we do our traditional gift exchange, I hope you are pleased with what I picked out for you!  Don’t bother getting anything for me.  All I want is a night with you (preferably with your clothes off!).  If you want to wrap something up to give me, here are a few thoughts:

1. Massage oil so you can rub my feet, neck and back.  I love your hands running across my skin!
2. Music. Download some songs from iTunes that remind you of great times together with me.  Or burn a personalized CD.  It will bring back happy memories every time I listen to it.
3. Concert tickets to see one of my favorites.  You join me for the concert even if you don’t enjoy the music.  Your being with me will make it so much cooler!
4. Dinner at a sports bar.  Relax, it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s night.  It would be fun to chill in a bar, drinking beer and eating appetizers with you while the game is on. Share in this occasion with me and you may just enjoy yourself!
5. Video Games. What?!  They relax me.  You enjoy shopping and pedicures, I just want to play games.  Besides, it will be good bonding time for me and the kids!

Love you, Babe!
Your Husband

Chinese New Year Feast

Friday, February 1st, 2008

Chinese New Year wouldn’t start off right without a helping of traditional dumplings. New Asian Cuisine, a monthly e-newsletter devoted to spreading the word about Asian chefs and savory dishes from the East turned to Nina Simonds, a world-renowned authority on Asian food for this recipe.  Go to New Asian Cuisine for the complete nutritional breakdown of this dish from Healthy Dining Finder.  Each dumpling has about 45 calories.chinese

Here is Simonds’ how-to for Meat Dumplings:
Ingredients
5 cups cored and finely minced Chinese (Napa) cabbage
1 teaspoon salt
1 pound lean ground pork
2 cups finely minced fresh Chinese garlic chives (if unavailable, substitute 1 cup minced leeks – mostly the whites – plus 1 tablespoon minced garlic)

For the Seasonings, mix together:
2 1/2 tablespoons soy sauce
2 tablespoons toasted sesame oil
1 1/2 tablespoons rice wine
1 1/2 tablespoons peeled and minced fresh ginger
1 tablespoon cornstarch, or more as needed

To Form, Cook, and Serve the Dumplings:
50 dumpling or gyoza skins
Cornstarch as needed
3 quarts water
Dipping sauce

Method
1. In a large bowl, combine the cabbage and salt and let sit for 30 minutes. (This will draw water out of the cabbage).

2. Squeeze as much water as possible out of the cabbage and combine the cabbage with the ground pork, minced chives, and seasonings in large bowl. Stir vigorously. If the mixture seems loose, add another teaspoon of cornstarch.

3. Place a teaspoon of filling in the center of each dumpling skin and fold the skin over to make a half-moon shape. Spread a little water along the edge of the skin and use the thumb and index finger of one hand to form small pleats along the outside edge of the skin; the inside edge of the dumpling should curve in a semicircular fashion to conform to the shape of the pleated edge. Place the sealed dumplings on a baking sheet lightly dusted with cornstarch.

4. In a large pot, heat the water until boiling. Add half the dumplings, stirring to prevent them from sticking together, and, once the water boils again, cook for 5 minutes. Remove with a handled strainer and drain, and then cook the remaining dumplings. Serve the dumplings with the dipping sauce.

Ingredients
Dipping Sauce
3/4 cup soy sauce
2 tablespoons peeled and finely shredded fresh ginger
1/4 cup water
3 tablespoons Chinese black vinegar or Worcestershire sauce

Method
1. Combine all the ingredients in a small bowl.

2. Transfer to a serving dish and use at room temperature. Refrigerated, the sauce will keep in a tightly covered container for up to a week.

Chef Note: Quick Method (love this!)

1. Buy frozen dumplings! Nina likes wei-chuan vegetable, pork and leek dumplings because she lived with the family when she lived in Taiwan.

2. Add Virgin Olive Oil to a nonstick pan and preheat it.

3. Arrange frozen dumplings in the pan, flat side down. Don’t be afraid of high heat. Adjust the heat by moving the pan off the burner.

4. Once the dumplings are golden brown, add 3/4 cup water and cover.

5. Cook for 4-5 minutes to cook completely through until the skin is translucent.

6. After the water evaporates, remove lid and pan sear the bottom. Make sure they don’t stick by lifting them with a spatula.

7. Finally, take a plate. put on top of dumpling and invert them. Voila!

Copyright Nina Simonds 2004

See Rachel Run

Friday, February 1st, 2008

So many of us resolved to better ourselves in 2008.  Well, now that it’s February, how far along are you towards your goal?  37-year-old Rachel Levi is on her way and she is taking The Well Mom with her as she carves out time to prepare for an athletic event that will challenge both her body and her family’s schedule. She’s a stay-at-home mom finally doing something for herself. Each month, Rachel will let us know how she’s managing her busy life with two children and her training schedule for her first Half Ironman triathlon in September, the Harvest Moon Long Course Triathlon.  The event covers a 1.2 mile open water swim, a 56 mile bike ride and a 13.1 mile run. Go Rachel!

An Introduction from Rachel:
Rachel

Hello fellow Well Moms. I am a wife and a mother of two beautiful daughters, 6-year-old Elizabeth and 18-month-old Gabriella. I am struggling with finding that balance between being a great mother, wife, friend and finding time for…ME. 

I am finally making a point to put ME higher up on the list. Late last year,  I watched my wonderful husband of almost 8 years finish his first Ironman triathlon. An Ironman competition involves a 2.4 mile swim, 112 mile bike ride, followed by a 26.2 mile run all in one day. While cheering him on, it hit me.  This is something big.  My daughters had fun watching Daddy compete.  But in my head,  I heard a little voice say, “YOU are your daughters’ female role model.  What are you doing for that?” Well, I was sitting on the side lines cheering on my husband (Wife), taking care of my daughters during his long training days (Mother). Again, what was I doing for ME?  I was moved to do something big and inspirational for my family and for ME! Long story short…I have signed up to do a Half Ironman late this summer. I plan on doing this to find MY balance, while teaching my daughters that Mommies can achieve incredible athletic feats too! I am just a normal woman -  no personal trainer, no nanny, no chef ornutritionist, just me and a supportive family behind me.

The goal is not only finishing well, but finishing knowing I did my best and that I found that elusive balance so many of us “Well Moms” are looking for. So it is time – time to find the time. Time to put down the cookies and pick up my swimming goggles, running shoes and bike helmet, because I am off. Off to find me. Wish me luck and I look forward having you all along in spirit!
Rachel
Here’s what I’ve been doing for the last month. I hope I can stick with it.

Monday – Drop Gabriella at 24 hour gym’s day care and run for 30 – 45 minutes (she hates the day care).
Yoga Class from 7:30 – 8:30 (kids asleep)
Tuesday - Ride bike on trainer in my basement from 6am – 7am (before kiddos are up).

Wednesday
– Drop Gabriella off and lift weights for 45 minutes (knowing she is screaming in the daycare).
Swim laps in local pool from 7:30 – 8:30 PM (kids asleep).

Thursday – Ride bike in basement from 6am – 7am.

Friday
– Drop Gabriella at 24 hour gym’s day care and run for 30 – 45 minutes.

Saturday – Hopefully, ride my bike outside.

Sunday – OFF OFF OFF OFF OFF

Somewhere in all of this I need to figure out nutrition. But that can come later down the road.  As you can see, I am trying to not be gone to much while the girls are awake.  And the daycare is a good thing for my “clingy” 18 month old. She is getting used to it!