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Posh Pick-Me-Up Giveaway

Sunday, August 31st, 2008

poshPamper yourself or someone you love with a posh pick-me-up from Lola’s Boutique! Sign upfor The Well Mom weekly email by midnight September 17, 2008 to enter towin one gift basket ($183 retail value) stocked with luxurious bath and beauty products by Lollia. 

One basket will be given away in arandom drawing.   Contestants will include new and existing registrants for The Well Mom weekly email.  You must double opt-in to TWM email tobe officially registered.

NO PURCHASE IS NECESSARY TO ENTER OR WIN.

Must be over 18-years-old to be eligible to win.  Winners will be
contacted by The Well Mom, Inc. to release mailing information for
shipping.  Product will be shipped by Lola’s Boutique. 
Good luck!
poshGift basket ($183 retail value) includes:

Ginger Blossom Tall Perfumed Luminary
Key ingredients:
A Rich exotic blend of Ginger, Pepper, and Pettigrain, with sheer hints of Pine Needle, Sage, and Dewy Greens and finished with a reminiscence of Cedarwood, and Sheer Musk.

Design Details:
Beautiful cabbage rose and vines on silk screened glass with hanging cut glass crystal.
Burn time 240 hours
Dimensions: 3.5″ long x 7.5″ tall

Breathe Shea Butter Handcreme
Key ingredients:
Peony, White Lily, Lavender and Violet, with rich Shea Butter, Macadamia and Brazil Nut Oils.

Design Details:
Sophisticated pattern play of vintage cabbage rose and modern floating peonies. Floral sleeve wraps over reusable box covered in monochromatic flowers and vines.
4.25 ounces
Dimensions: 7″ long x 2.25″ tall

Believe Foaming Bubble Bath
Key ingredients:
Delicate Rose water, red Apple and Bergamot, a whisper of warm Jasmine, dewy Plum and Cedarwood.

Design Details:
An elegant wine bottle with a wrap around the base and neck label, and a cut glass hang tag around the neck.
500 ml
Dimensions: 2.75″ long x 12.5″ tall

Believe Eau de Parfum
Key ingredients:
Delicate Rose water, red Apple and Bergamot, a whisper of warm Jasmine, dewy Plum and Cedarwood. Shea Butter Oils.

Design Details:
Cabbage Roses and vines silkscreened an elegant glass perfume bottle with a lollia love letter silkscreened on the inside.
4 ounces
Dimensions: 2.5″ long x 5.5″ tall
 
Believe Bath Salts
Key ingredients:
Delicate Rose water, red Apple and Bergamot, a whisper of warm Jasmine, dewy Plum and Cedarwood
 16 fl. oz.

lolas boutique
About Lola’s Boutique:
Former fashion editor and mom Mariana Nuziale founded Lola’s Boutique in 2005. After years covering the fashion industry and then working as a stylist for celebrities, including supermodel Niki Taylor and TV personality Kelly Ripa, she decided to parlay her expertise into a opening up her own business in the NYC neighborhood where she grew up.  She seeks out fabulous fashion and beauty finds while raising her baby daughter, Valentina.
 

Real Body After Four Kids

Saturday, August 23rd, 2008

By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
I’m not ashamed to admit that my twentieth high school reunion is around the corner.  Old friends have been coming out of the woodworks for months now – an email here, a text there — exchanging updates and plans about the big weekend.  Hard to believe how much has happened since we were just turning 18 and on the brink of so many life changing adventures.  Who did we think we would become all those years ago?  Who have we grown into today? There’s a lot of suspense — more so than when I attended our tenth.real bodies

So I was struck recently when I heard from a woman my age who was also planning to step back into her past.  And Wendy Brady wanted to make an entrance.

“I want to hear my classmates whisper, there’s no way she has four kids,” she told The Well Mom.

Thanks to hard work, that was the reaction she got when she bumped into old boyfriends and childhood buddies this past July at the big event in Ft. Lauderdale. 

“My best friend and I had been talking about this reunion for months now – what to wear, getting in shape, who’s going, who’s going to look good. It’s totally childish – but it’s kind of fun. And it definitely kept me focused when I felt like getting off the treadmill early,” Brady says.real bodies

The Tampa mother of four children ages, 15, 13, 11, and 9,  was always active as a kid.  But it wasn’t until she became a mom, that she got serious about fitness.  Today, she’s 10 pounds lighter than she was two decades ago.  This after putting on 60 pounds while she was pregnant with her first child. 

“I’ve gone through fitness phases… from jogging and aerobics classes, to more involved fitness like training for triathlons, ” explains the advertising exec who also recently launched Haute Lunch, LLC, a chic line of lunch tote bags.

Even through the phases of staying at home, then working full-time and now starting her own business, 38-year-old Brady has made time for exercise.  It wasn’t easy to get back into shape after each pregnancy.

“The first time I went out for a jog after my fourth child was born, I recall being so disappointed in myself because I could barely jog for a ¼ mile,” she says. “As I walked back home, I made a goal that the next day I would try again … but go really, really slow so I could make ¼ mile without stopping. I ran really slow – but I made it to my ¼ mile mark and walked backed home feeling great because I had accomplished what I set out to do.”

These days, you’ll find her working up a sweat during lunch hour at the YMCA next to her office.  Five days a week, she runs 2.5 miles on the treadmill then speeds through a circuit of weights, abdominal exercises, lunges and push-ups. 

“I try to show my kids that exercise is an excellent daily habit, as important as brushing your teeth. It’s just part of my regular routine…They’re proud that I can run pretty fast, I can chase them down at second base in a game of wiffle ball, or do cart-wheels with them across the yard. I love being able to kid-stuff with my kids – it’s priceless and it’s what staying in shape is really all about,” she says.

Sensible eating throughout the day is also a priority for this busy mom. 

“My theory about food selection is if you need a degree in chemistry to understand the ingredients, it’s probably not good for you. So I generally avoid diet drinks, fast food, frozen entrees – any kind of overly processed foods,” she told me.

Brady starts her day with steel-cut oatmeal w/milk and a cup of green tea, then a piece of fruit mid-morning.  After she hits the gym, she has a sandwich on whole grain bread and a late afternoon snack of fruit and crackers.  Dinner is generally some form of sautéed chicken, a green vegetable, and a starch (noodles, red potatoes, or rice).  

While she did ramp up her workouts in preparation for the reunion and got motivated by a shopping trip for a new bikini to wear on the trip back to her hometown, she says it’s been consistency and realistic goal-setting that have kept her slim all these years.

Her advice to fellow moms struggling with extra pounds:

“Set small goals for yourself that are attainable – and before you know it, you’ll have gone farther than you ever imagined,” she says.

Real Ingredients or Real Bull?

Saturday, August 23rd, 2008

ingredientsCourtesy of DivineCaroline
Marketers often have to come up with creative ways to gain a competitive advantage and sell T.S.O.C.—the same old crap. This requires repackaging common ingredients and giving them new (and newly trademarked) names and identities. Are they insulting our intelligence with their duplicity or does this type of marketing really work? If you’ve purchased the following products, you may have to side with the latter.

Bifidus Regularis and Bifidus Immunis
Probiotics are the new the cure-all craze. If you believe some food labels, they can solve everything from bad digestion to acne to obesity to a bad attitude. To help further their health claims, the marketing team at Dannon, which makes Activia, took things a step further. Banking on the power of suggestion, they came up with new names for two strains of bacteria found in their yogurt: bifidus regularis, which supposedly helps regulate your digestive system and L. casei immunitas, which, you guessed it, supposedly strengthens your immune system. Probiotics may have some benefits, but most yogurts contain them—the reason why there is a class action lawsuit accusing Dannon of a false advertising campaign promoting the benefits of their yogurt over others. The suit charges that the claims merely convince consumers to pay more. But how else would the marketing team get paid?

Certs—with Retsyn®
With all the fuss Certs made about its fabulously unique ingredient—Retsyn—which none of the other lowly breath mints contain, one would assume it was damn worth it. But alas, a few investigative clicks yields an ingredient list for Retsyn that is less spectacular and more mundane: copper gluconate (the green specks), hydrogenated cottonseed oil, and flavoring. There is no such chemical as Retsyn—it’s a mere conglomerate of every day ingredients.

Scope—with T25®
Scope is the only mouthwash that contains T25 breath fresheners. What, exactly, does this mean? The ambiguous letter/number ingredient would make one assume that it’s a highly sophisticated chemical that rids you of your lingering halitosis for good. But, reading the ingredient list reveals that T25 is a piece of made-up marketing—there is no new compound, merely a trademarked blend of breath fresheners. A bit like pushing the peas around on the plate to make it seem like something new has happened.

Quadratein™—sounds serious, huh?
It’s not hard to figure out why the makers of Snickers Marathon Bar named their proprietary blend of non-proprietary ingredients “Quadratein.” The word calls to mind those big leg muscles needed to run 26.2 miles, or the protein building blocks of those muscles. However, there is nothing unique about their trademarked compound—it’s simply a mix of protein found in milk and soy, mixed with some peanut flour—nothin’ new there. Their real marketing “genius,” however, came with the introduction of the oxymoronic “low-carb” marathon bar—a true feat of duplicity. Has anyone at Snicker’s ever run a marathon? You need those carbs.

PC-SPES
PC-SPES is an herbal supplement that many men are familiar with—it supposedly reduces the chances of getting prostate cancer. Advertised as a pure herbal blend, it and another supplement, SPES, were later found to be laced with prescription drugs—including estrogens, painkillers, and blood thinners. Similarly, some sexual performance-enhancing “herbal” remedies like Stamina-RX and Vigor-25, actually contain dangerous levels of erectile dysfunction prescription drugs in them; others have been found to contain testosterone and estradiols. The FDA doesn’t monitor herbal supplements so it makes the marketing easy—put anything you want in there!

Taurine
Taurine isn’t a made up ingredient—it is actually found in nature—but every claim about its ability to make you strong like a bull is basically bunk. The non-necessary amino acid is widely found in the human body; dietary sources include fish and meat. Red Bull seized the idea that taurine—from the Latin taurus, meaning bull—can somehow increase energy; other energy drinks have followed suit and added it to their products. Most likely, any energy that these beverages impart is from caffeine. It’s unclear how much of the taurine in dietary sources reaches the brain and recent research indicates it acts more like a sedative—not a stimulant—when it’s there.  

Pinnothin
I’ve yet to see this on a food label, but coming soon, Pinnothin, as you might’ve guessed, will be marketed as a weight loss aid/supplement/or nutraceutical. The evidence for its ability to help people eat less, like most claims from big food companies, comes from a small industry-sponsored study that came up with industry positive results. Taken thirty minutes before a meal, it reduced food intake by 9 percent (not statistically significant, so it could have occurred by chance). But what exactly is this miraculous new chemical or compound? Pine nut oil.

Green Tea Everything
Green tea is as old as dirt, but drink companies just recently realized how to make the ancient liquid trendy (usually by putting it in a mint-green, Asian-inspired package and adding high fructose corn syrup or the words “low carb” to the front). By extracting the good stuff, green tea drinks claim to burn calories (as in the Enviga drink), or antioxidant the hell out of your entire body, or boost immune system, or … do whatever it takes so you will buy their product rather than just brew a cup of tea.  
Given the competitive nature of product marketing, there is no doubt we will continue to be assaulted with an endless stream of “new,” or newly discovered, ingredients designed to make old products seem healthier, better, or sexier. The question is: do we buy it?

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My Princess & Me

Saturday, August 23rd, 2008

princessBy Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
When I was about my daughter’s age, family lore has it that I demanded to dress in long ruffled skirts and shiny patent leather shoes for nursery school.  Every single day.
 
So I guess it shouldn’t surprise me that my own precious 2 1/2-year-old now dons a shiny lavender purse (even at bedtime), pink sneakers (with flashing purple lights) and is suddenly obsessed with all things sparkly and shiny.  Yes, it’s happened. My princess wants to be a princess.  Despite my own history, I had dreaded the moment my baby would show interest in tiaras and tulle.
 
For a while, I actually thought we had smoothly averted the craze that turns spunky little girls into wannabe beauty queens.  I was proud that she tussled over trucks and soccer balls with her twin brother and jumped around in the mud…and that she showed zero interest in Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty costumes last Halloween.  I guess it made me feel virtuous — like somehow I was living up to my feminist obligations because the princess phase hadn’t taken hold.  Back then, just about a year ago, White House hopeful Hillary Clinton was still in the game and enjoying historic frontrunner status and I felt compelled to ensure my daughter was going to pursue any dream she wanted.  And for me, that track was not going to include a detour to fairyland.
 
Only it has.  And surprisingly, I’m okay with it.  Perhaps, I’m experiencing what it is to be post-feminist.  Is it possible that the allure of the princess does not have to be feared nor resented by anxious super moms?  Maybe it’s just a natural exploration of femininity and fantasy that could actually enhance a child’s sense of self later in life?
 
I started thinking about this when we took the kids shopping for their first baseball mitts. Did you know you can buy hot pink gloves? I cringed at first. But then it occurred to me, as I watched my husband teach my daughter how to throw and catch a ball, does the hue really matter?  If it gets her interested in being healthy and active, maybe not.

Not long after the outing to the sporting goods store, we made our first pilgrimage to Disneyland during a family vacation.  I still felt so conflicted.   As we braved the crowds on a scorching day, we couldn’t help but notice throngs of little ones decked out in glittery gowns and faux glass slippers.

What message would this send to my children about our values or who we want them to be? 

Would this outing lay the foundation for a lifetime of eating disorders and cosmetic surgery? 

At 2-years-old, it’s hard to say if my daughter and son absorbed the weight of all this.  Okay – they had no idea.  But it was running through my mind the whole time until we finally made it to the “princess show”…and I melted.   I welled up when I saw the wonderment in my daughter’s eyes as Snow White descended from the stage to dance with the adoring flock of preschoolers. It was, well, magical.  I was taken back to my own girlhood love of castles and fairy godmothers and yes, handsome princes. Then I wondered what was I so afraid of?   We are raising a confident, happy, well-rounded kid and if right now, pink and princessy is her thing, what’s wrong with that?

Perhaps it’s the context I’ll need to provide as she starts to absorb the narratives around the classic fairy tales. There’s actually a great new book I got my hands on last week that provides some thoughtful help. It’s called “Princess Bubble” (Bubble Press 2008) and it was written by two former Delta flight attendants, Susan Johnston and Kimberly Webb. The storybook is a modern day fairy tale in which “happily ever after” has nothing to with being beautiful or needing to be rescued.

 â€œWe just believe that young girls today are bombarded with so much inaccurate advice on how to build their self-esteem—messages that focus on the outside rather than what’s within. We want to change that message,” explains Webb of her foray into the children’s literary world.

The story culminates with the heroine finding “happily ever after” within herself and her contributions to the world. Her self-worth is defined by her integrity, intelligence and compassion.  Isn’t that what all parents want for their kids?

All this played out in my mind, as I watched Michelle Obama gracefully command the stage in Denver.  I was fascinated by the cutaway shots of her mother in the crowd – watching and listening so carefully to her daughter’s inspiring words.  I can only imagine the pride.  Then I wondered what role princesses played in Michelle’s household growing up?  Or in the lives of her young daughters today?  I would love to ask her what she thinks about all of the anti-princess hype in the media today? Is it valid?

What I have come away with is that I have to trust my own instincts as a modern mother and I’m starting to believe that no amount of princess marketing to girls can trump the self-confidence and self-reliance shaped by parents.  We have the responsibility to fill our children with the sense of possibility – to help them see their innate worth and potential. 

So, if for now, that journey entails sequins and sparkles – I’m in.

Do The Scramble

Saturday, August 23rd, 2008

scrambleBy Aviva Goldfarb, Founder, The Scramble

Sautéed Mini Chicken Burgers

Prep + Cook = 30 minutes
6 servings

Our kids gobbled up these delicious patties suggested by our friend, Mark Spindel.  They’re so versatile—the basic recipe is delicious, or you can give them an Indian flavor by adding curry powder or an Asian flavor by adding a little ginger and soy or teriyaki sauce.  Serve them with honey mustard, barbecue sauce, and/or ketchup for dipping, and oven-roasted potatoes on the side.

2 lbs. ground chicken
1 1/2 tsp. minced garlic (2 – 3 cloves)
1/2 cup fresh Italian parsley, minced (or more to taste)
1/2 tsp. dried oregano or 1 1/2 tsp. fresh
1/2 tsp. dried basil or 1 1/2 tsp. fresh chopped basil
1/2 lemon, juice only (2 Tbsp.)
1/4 – 1/2 tsp. salt, to taste
1/8 tsp. black pepper, or to taste
1/2 cup bread crumbs
1-2 Tbsp. olive oil
1 cup honey mustard, barbecue sauce, and/or ketchup, for serving

(If you are making the potatoes, start them first.)  In a large bowl, thoroughly combine the chicken, garlic, parsley, oregano, basil and lemon juice. Season it with salt and pepper. 

Put the bread crumbs on a small shallow dish.  Form the mixture into about 15 small, thin patties, about 2 inches in diameter.  Press the patties into the bread crumbs to coat each side and set them aside on a plate.  (At this point you can refrigerate them for up to 24 hours or proceed with the recipe.) 

In a large nonstick skillet, heat the oil over medium heat.  Cook the patties until they are browned on each side and cooked through, about 8-10 minutes total.  If they are cooking too fast on the outside, reduce the heat and cover the pan for a few minutes.  Serve them hot with your favorite condiments. 

Scramble Flavor Booster: Add 1 tsp. curry powder or 1/4 tsp. ginger powder and 1 Tbsp. soy or teriyaki sauce to the burgers and/or serve them with spicy barbecue sauce or spicy mustard.   

Side Dish suggestion:  To make oven-roasted potatoes, preheat the oven to 450 degrees.  Dice 3-4 white or baking potatoes into 3/4-inch pieces and toss them with 2 Tbsp. olive oil, 1 tsp. dried oregano or rosemary (optional), and black pepper and salt to taste.  Spread them in a single layer on a baking sheet sprayed with nonstick cooking spray.  Bake them for about 30 minutes total, turning them once or twice, until they are crispy brown. 

Tip:  I prefer the taste of flat leaf Italian parsley, but you can use flat leaf or curly leaf parsley interchangeably in most recipes. 

Nutritional Information per serving (% based upon daily values):
Calories 230, Total Fat 4.5g, 7%, Saturated Fat 1g, 5%, Cholesterol 90mg, 30%, Sodium 170mg, 7%, Total Carbohydrate 8g, 3% Dietary Fiber 1g, 4% Sugar 1g, Protein 36g

Nutritional Information per serving (with 3/4 cup oven-roasted potatoes) (% based upon daily values): Calories 354, Total Fat 9.5g, 14%, Saturated Fat 2g, 8%, Cholesterol 90mg, 30%, Sodium 332mg, 13%, Total Carbohydrate 27g, 9% Dietary Fiber 3g, 12% Sugar 2g, Protein 38g

Fall Wines To Enjoy

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

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Just because you’ve left behind the lazy days of summer, doesn’t mean you can’t reclaim a little bit of the mood.  Put your feet up and sit back with with a glass of great wine.  TWM turned to The Wine Coach, Laurie Forster for some early autumn suggestions.  Here’s what she recommends for fall nights:

Pazo de Senorans Albariño 2005, Rias-Baixas, Spain
If there were a Grand Cru designation for Albariño, the wines of Pazo de
Senorans would be on the list.  Marisol Bueno not only won Pazo de Senorans,
but she also helped Rias-Baixas achieve recognition as one of the top wine
regions in Spain.  This is a serious Albariño with a richness that is full
of peach, apricot with a sense of minerality.  Classically crisp, this wine
is a perfect partner for treats from the sea.  Shuck some oysters, grill
some shrimp and prepare yourself for an amazing experience!
Retails for $18.

Terrazas de los Andes Malbec Reserva 2005, Mendoza, Argentina
Deep in color, this Malbec is brimming with fruit flavors of cherry, plums
and violets with hints of vanilla.  Full bodied, with structured tannins,
this is a meat eater’s red. Terrazas is a subsidiary of Moët Chandon, one of
the most famous producers of Champagne.  In the fifties they sent one of
their winemakers to scout the area of Mendoza—he was immediately impressed.
Recognizing the potential of the area, Moët Chandon decided to create the
first subsidiary vineyards ever outside of France in Mendoza.  This Malbec
shows what can happen when you blend a perfect climate with a wealth of
winemaking history.
Retails for $19.

Domaine Alary “Le Font d’Estevenas” Cairanne Côtes du Rhône Villages 2005
Only 16 of the best villages in the southern Rhône Valley are allowed to add
their name to the Côtes du Rhône Villages wines.  One sip of this Cairanne
and you’ll know this more than your basic Côtes du Rhône.  A blend of mostly
Syrah (60%) and Grenache (40%), this fuller bodied red has firm tannins with
flavors of cherries, earth and if you can believe it toasted marshmallows!
Retail: $20.       
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As The Wine Coach®,Laurie Forster combines her extensive knowledge of wine with herexperience as a life coach to create unique events for corporate,women’s and private groups.  Laurie began her wine career in Manhattanwhere she studied with the American Sommelier Association to obtain hercertificate in Viticulture and Vinification.  Her goal is to helppeople de-mystify wine one glass at a time!  For more information orfree weekly wine tips go to www.thewinecoach.com

Love The New You: Visualization

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

visualizationBy Rebecca Rodskog, Rodskog Change Consulting
“Close your eyes.  Take a deep breath.  Now picture your happy place!”  This is what most of us think when we hear the word “visualization.” Visualization gets a bad rap, and for good reason – many of us have been taken through these hokey exercises and found no real benefit, except for maybe an occasional nap.  Visualization, when done correctly, can be a powerful tool and can make the difference between success and failure.  In sports and in the executive suite, this has been a known tool used to greatly enhance performance.

A few months ago we talked about the 5 tools for successful growth.  Visualization is one of those tools.  I use the term visualization broadly to encompass not only those traditional techniques, but also those things that literally bring your goals and techniques out of your mind and into a picture or words in front of you.  Visualization doesn’t have to be complicated.   A few minutes a day may be all you need to get you on your path.  Below I will show you just how simple it can be to include visualization into your plan for success.

5 Simple Visualization Techniques

1. Post it:  Many of us take the time to write down our goals, but then they are filed away never to be seen again.  Once you have clear goals set, post them in a place where you will see them every day.  Above your desk at work or at home where you pay the bills.  A quick read will remind you every day of where you are headed.

2. Picture it:  The more specific we can get with our goals, the easier it is for us to attain them.  So, if you can find a picture that represents your goal, cut it out and post it somewhere prominent.  

3. Glue it:  If you have the time, sit down with a bunch of magazines and your goals and start pulling pictures of those items that represent your dreams.  Cut out those pictures and glue them to some poster board.  Much like number 2, this enables you to get really specific about what it is you want.  And often, you will get inspired by those photos.  I had one woman in a workshop put a picture of a baby on her board and she said “I didn’t even realize that was something I wanted until I found myself tearing it out of the magazine!”  Once you’ve completed your board, place it somewhere prominent (if you’re open to sharing), like in your office or on the refrigerator.  If it’s a bit too personal, have it under your bed or in your nightstand and pull it out every night before you go to bed or every morning when you wake up and review it.

4. Write about it:  This is one-part documentation and one-part visualization.  Take a few minutes either in the morning or in the evening to describe what your life will be like once you’ve achieved your goal.  Get as specific as possible.  The more you picture yourself as if it’s already happened, the easier it will be to achieve!  

5. Visualize it:  This is a more traditional technique, and it is very powerful.  Find a few minutes in your day to truly meditate on your goals.  Picture yourself doing, achieving, and reaping the rewards of your success.  The more you do this, the more your brain is tricked into believing you’ve already achieved, and you will move towards your goal in leaps and bounds.  

Next Month:  Vocalization:  Tell ‘em what you want!

Got a question for Rebecca? We’d love to hear from you!
Email: heather@thewellmom.com
Rebecca
Rebecca Rodskog is a NYC based personal life coach, change management consultant, actress and mom.  She has worked with corporations and individuals for over 15 years helping them grow through change in the workplace and at home.  For more information, check out www.rodskog.com.

The Power of Less

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

By Susan Callahan, Anne Nolen and Katrin Schumann
Authors of Mothers Need Time-Outs, Too
It’s back to school time and pretty much every mom out there is feeling overwhelmed! Even our everyday lives can be challenging when we’re inundated with stuff and constantly feel the need to be busy, to buy more and to keep our homes pristine.

In our focus groups with moms across America, almost every single woman we talked to said what she craves most is a sense of control. Funny thing is, though the mothers we talked with felt they’re doing more, earning more, and have lots more stuff—they’re enjoying it all less!

But it’s not like that for everyone. We also heard from women who’ve begun the journey of gaining more control over their busy lives by paring down on their acquisitions and activities. It frees them up in so many ways: they have more space to breathe and think, there’s less anxiety about buying, upgrading, organizing… and best of all, they have more mindshare—not to mention more actual time—to spend doing the activities they love with their families.
For children and adults alike, when you have the mental space, you can:
•    Enjoy solitude and peace
•    Find your own happiness
•    Get pleasure from reflective thinking and being creative
•    Enjoy spontaneity
•    Continue to forge ahead after experiencing disappointment or failure
•    Understand the value of moderation, hard work, delayed gratification and compassion
   
Let’s say, like most moms, you’d prefer your home to be reasonably well organized. There are countless little tricks we heard about that women use on a daily basis to give themselves a sense of calm in the chaos of motherhood. They:
•    Lay out their clothes, and the kids’ clothes, the night before
•    Put the kids to bed in the clean clothes they can wear the next day (yes, it works like a dream!)
•    Make the kids’ lunch and have them pack their school bags before heading for bed
•    Leave the kitchen clean so when they wake up in the morning, they’re happy to be get up and make breakfast
•    Set the coffee machine on automatic so they wake up to the aroma of fresh-brewed java
•    Teach the children to make their own breakfast, and to put away the dishes
•    Check their daily calendar before going to bed, so they know what’s in store for them the following day
•    Keep the kids school work or “treasures” in individual plastic buckets that they sort through at the end of each school year
•    Take the mail out of its envelopes and throw away all junk and advertising as soon as it arrives
•    Have one designated area in the kitchen for papers, another for invitations, and another for notices to act upon
•    Delete or file e-mails once a day
•    Act upon every phone message as soon as they listen to it
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While not all of these tricks will work for you, we tried a bunch and they really helped take the pressure off. As busy modern moms, once we’ve made peace with the way we manage our households—both our possessions and the family calendar—we can move on to the really important things in life: enjoying our surroundings, being fully present with the people we love, doing good, interesting things with our time, and having some fun in between.

Adapted from: Mothers Need Time-Outs, Too: It’s Good to Be a Little Selfish—It Actually Makes You a Better Mother. For more information visit www.momstimeouts.com

Restaurant Report Card

Sunday, August 10th, 2008

By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
For Well Moms on the go, even those who eat home-cooked meals most of the time, eating out is part of the regular routine.   In my family, it’s usually on the weekends that we grab a meal or two in a restaurant with the kids.  It’s fast. There are no dishes to wash. And the little ones have a good time.  The problem is that while I’m sitting there ordering a grilled chicken salad sans dressing for myself, many times I’m at a loss for what to order for my toddlers.  If it was up to them, I am sure that fries, ketchup and chocolate ice cream would suffice.  Now a new book coming out later this month, Eat This Not That! for Kids!: Be the Leanest, Fittest Family on the Block! may offer Well Moms like us some guidance on making better choices.

Co-authors David Zinczenko and Matt Goulding created a report card for 43 national chain restaurants.  Over the course of a year, they compared children’s entrees and calculated calories, fat (trans- and saturated), and sodium, as well as the average number of calories per children’s serving.  6 popular spots received failing grades, while others scored extra points for offering healthy vegetable and fruit side dishes and beverage alternatives to sugary soda. Some of the restaurants were also docked points for refusing to release nutritional information to customers. 

A lot of the information can also help us parents make smarter choices for ourselves, too. Men’s Health editor Zinczenko is the author of the amazing Abs Diet for Women (which I highly recommend) -  so I was really psyched to find out about this latest project.

restaurantHere’s an excerpt from the EAT THIS, NOT THAT! For Kids Restaurant Report Card:

A
Chick-fil-A
Chick-fil-A excels in every category we tested for. With a slew of low-calorie sandwiches, the country’s “healthiest” chicken nugget, a variety of solid sides like fresh fruit and soup that can be substituted into any meal, and nutritional brochures readily available for perusing at each location, Chick-fil-A earns the award for America’s Healthiest Chain Restaurant (for kids, for the adults who drive them there, plus anybody else wise enough to make it their fast food choice).

Your Survival Strategy: Even the smartest kid in the class can still fail a test, so be on your toes at all times, even at Chik-fil-A. Limit salads with ranch or Caesar dressings, any sandwich with bacon, and make milkshakes a special treat, not an everyday beverage.

   
A-
Subway
A menu based on lean protein and vegetables is always going to score well in our book. With more than half a dozen sandwiches under 300 calories, plus a slew of soups and healthy sides to boot, Subway can satisfy even the pickiest eater without breaking the caloric bank.

But, despite what Jared may want you to believe, Subway is not nutritionally infallible: Those rosy calorie counts posted on the menu boards include neither cheese nor mayo (add 160 calories per 6-inch sub) and some of the toasted subs, like the Meatball Marinara, contain hefty doses of calories, saturated fat, and sodium.

Your Survival Strategy: Cornell researchers have discovered a “health halo” at Subway, which refers to the tendency to reward yourself or your kid with chips, cookies, and large soft drinks because the entrée is healthy. Avoid the halo, and all will be well.

   
B+
Boston Market
With more than a dozen healthy vegetable sides and lean meats like turkey and roast sirloin on the menu, the low-cal, high-nutrient possibilities at Boston Market are endless. But with nearly a dozen calorie-packed sides and fatty meats like dark meat chicken and meat loaf (which contains an unfathomable 55 ingredients!), it’s almost as easy to construct a lousy meal.

Your Survival Strategy: There are three simple steps to nutritional salvation: 1) Start with turkey, sirloin, or rotisserie chicken. 2) Add two noncreamy, nonstarchy vegetable sides. 3) Ignore all special items, such as pot pie and nearly all of the sandwiches.

   
B
McDonald’s
Though not blessed with an abundance of healthy options, Mickey D’s isn’t burdened with any major calorie bombs, either. Kid standards like McNuggets and cheeseburgers are both in the acceptable 300-calorie range.

Your Survival Strategy: Apple Dippers and 2% milk with a small entrée makes for a pretty decent meal-on-the-go. McDonald’s quintessential Happy Meal® makes this possible — just beware the usual French fries and soda pitfalls. Adults should go for a Quarter Pounder without cheese.

   
C+
Domino’s
Domino’s suffers the same pitfalls of any other pizza purveyor: too much cheese, bread, and greasy toppings. If you don’t order carefully, your child’s pizza might come laden with more than 350 calories per slice. To its credit, Domino’s does keep the trans fat out of the pizza, and it also offers the lowest-calorie thin crust option out there.

Your Survival Strategy: Stick with the Crunchy Thin Crust pizzas sans sausage and pepperoni. If your must order meat, ask for ham. And whenever possible, try to sneak on a vegetable or two per pie.

   
C
Burger King
BK has only four legitimate kids’ entrées on the menu, and none of them — French Toast Sticks, hamburger, mac and cheese, chicken tenders — are particularly healthy. And while the recent addition of Apple Fries provides a much-needed healthy side alternative for kids, the menu is still sullied with trans fats. BK pledged to follow in the wake of nearly every other chain restaurant and remove trans fats from the menu by the end of 2008, but so far, we’ve seen little action. In fact, a large order of Hash Browns has an outrageous 13 grams of the heart-threatening fat, and even an order of Cini-minis will add 4.5 grams of trans fats to your kid’s breakfast.  

Your Survival Strategy: Adults can sign on for the Whopper Junior and a Garden Salad, and escape with only 365 calories. The best kids’ meal? A 4-piece Chicken Tenders®, applesauce or Apple Fries, and water or milk. Beyond that, there is little hope of escaping unscathed.

D
Chipotle
We applaud Chipotle’s commitment to high-quality produce and fresh meats, but even the most pristine ingredients can’t limit the damage wrought by the massive portion sizes the chain serves up. The lack of options for kids means young eaters are forced to tussle with one of Chipotle’s behemoth burritos or taco platters, which can easily top 1,000 calories. Don’t think you’ll escape by ordering up a salad, either—even a leafy bowl at Chipotle can knock out more than half a day’s worth of calories.

Your Survival Strategy: Stick to the crispy tacos or burrito bowls, or saw a burrito in thirds.

F
Applebee’s, IHOP, Olive Garden, Outback, Red Lobster, T.G.I. Friday’s
These titans of the restaurant industry are among the last national chains that don’t provide nutritional information on their dishes. Even after years of communication with their representatives, we still hear the same old excuses: it’s too pricey, it’s too time-consuming, it’s impossible to do accurately because their food is so fresh. Our response is simple: If every other chain restaurant in the country can do it, then why can’t they? Recent New York legislation requiring these restaurants to run calorie counts on their menus gave diners a glimpse of what these establishments are hiding: At Friday’s, no fewer than nine sandwiches and ten appetizers topple the 1000-calorie barrier; at IHOP, the “healthiest” entrée-size salad has a staggering 1050 calories; and at Outback, even a simple order of salmon will wipe out 75% of your day’s caloric allotment.   

Your Survival Strategy: Write letters, make phone calls, beg, scream, and plead for these restaurants to provide nutritional information on all of their products. Ask them why they refuse to tell us the truth!

**For a comprehensive A-to-F breakdown on 30 other chain restaurants -plus the best and worst meals at each, check out the complete at EAT THIS,NOT THAT! For Kids Restaurant Report Card eatthis.com/restaurants.

What’s In a Wine Glass?

Monday, August 4th, 2008

By Laurie Forster, The Wine Coach®
One of life’s greatest pleasures, especially for overworked moms, is relaxing at the end of the day with a great glass of wine.  We ponder the wine, its origins, its taste, but most of us rarely stop to think about the importance of the glass itself.  Your wine glass is more than just a place to pour your wine.  It can significantly affect the taste of your wine.  Investing in the correct type of wine glasses is one of the most important decisions a wine lover can make.  Here are the essential things to consider in the selection process.

What are the basic requirements?

At a very minimum, your wine glass should be tulip shaped with a bowl that tapers as you get to the top.  This helps keep the aromas in the glass and enhances your tasting enjoyment.  Try to find a glass that is at least 8-10 inches tall and made of clear glass with no etching or designs.  Colored or decorative glasses affect the full enjoyment of the wine’s true color.  The bowl should be broad enough to allow for adequate swirling, which kicks up the wine’s aromas and vaporizes the alcohol making it accessible for smelling.  This is important since smelling the wine is 80% of the tasting process.

I recommend purchasing real crystal – more for functional reasons than beauty.  Crystal has a rough surface that helps agitate the wine when swirled, allowing us to better smell and enjoy the wine (it also increases the production of bubbles in Champagne).  The thinner the glass, especially the rim, the better the wine will taste.  Less glass, more wine—it just makes sense!  

Why have different size glasses?

The smaller glasses used for white wines allow their more delicate aromas to concentrate in the glass.  This concentration ensures we can smell the wines better, and as mentioned previously, smelling is the workhorse of tasting.  Conversely, larger glasses with broader bowls provide red wine greater surface area for swirling allowing the oxygen to unlock their fabulous flavors.  The bubbles found in champagne and sparkling wines benefit from the long slender flute shape wine glasses.

In the 1960s Professor Claus Riedel first introduced his varietal-specific glasses after he noticed that the aromas, flavors and balance of different varietals were enhanced by the shape of the wine glass.  There are differences in the taste but they are subtle.  If you don’t have the budget (or cabinet space) for a multitude of different glasses, no need to worry—just be sure what you buy is good quality.

What’s Up With Stemless Glasses?

One of the new trends in wine glasses are the stemless glasses.  They have the same shape as regular wine glasses but without the stem.  In addition to looking great, these stemless glasses can save you money.  Wine glasses often break at the stem given their delicate nature.  Stemless glasses will likely last longer.  Also, unlike other crystal wine glasses that should be hand washed, these glasses can be put in the dishwasher (good news in my house!).  There are a few downsides.  As you hold the glass your body heat will warm the wine (more critical if it’s white wine).  Stemless glasses also make it more difficult to fully appreciate the beautiful colors of the wine.  I think they are great glasses for casual parties, boating or when no one is taking wine or anything else for that matter too seriously!

How Should I Wash My Glasses?

Use very hot water!  Unless you like the bouquet of Palmolive, try not to use, or if you must use detergent . . . use it very sparingly.  Using too much soap will leave a residue that may affect the taste of the wine.  After washing, place the glasses upside down on a linen towel to dry.  For spotless glasses that even Martha Stewart would be impressed with, try this trick: hold glasses over a steaming pot of water and then polish with your best linen tea towels.

As The Wine Coach®, Laurie Forster combines her extensive knowledge of wine with her experience as a life coach to create unique events for corporate, women’s and private groups.  Laurie began her wine career in Manhattan where she studied with the American Sommelier Association to obtain her certificate in Viticulture and Vinification.  Her goal is to help people de-mystify wine one glass at a time!  For more information or free weekly wine tips go to www.thewinecoach.com