Archive for September, 2008

Look Better Than You Feel

Thursday, September 25th, 2008

lookBy Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
Breast cancer is no laughing matter.  But Kim Newlen couldn’t help herself from trying to lighten the mood for her family, even as she recovered from a mastectomy and embarked on months of chemotherapy and radiation.  She told everyone she was a new member of “The Bald and The Breastless,” took her daughter wig shopping and came home sporting a Shania Twain “do” and set her energies on maintaining normalcy for her family. 

“One of the best things (for your family) is if you can at least look better than you feel. And that was the most important for my family.  If mom looks okay, then it is some therapy,” says 51-year-old Newlen whose surgery took place less than a week after her diagnosis five years ago.

While Newlen says her faith helped her keep a sense of humor, she found it difficult to look the way she wanted.  Getting dressed after the surgery was a challenge, especially the first week home from the hospital.

“I wore my bathrobe home because I had nothing to wear.  I did not want to go anywhere because I had nothing to wear. I certainly didn’t feel like shopping. I ended up wearing an old swimsuit under a dress for my first outing,” she recalls. 

Newlen was desperate to buy clothing that was loose and modest enough to be comfortable, yet fashionable enough that she could actually feel good wearing it out of the house.  And she wanted something that was easy to slip on and off through all the seemingly endless trips to the doctor for her cancer treatments. 

“It would take me longer to get dressed (after an appointment) than it took them to radiate my breast,” she laughs.

The industrious mom, who says she tirelessly drew on her eyebrows and applied lipstick every day during treatment, didn’t want to wait around.  Instead, she designed exactly what she needed  – a pretty camisole that could be worn under a blazer or alone, that could be easily taken off and could even comfortably carry the unsightly post-surgery drains that often frustrate mastectomy patients.  The brand name was simple: “Look Better Than You Feel.” 

After a neighbor helped her sew a rough prototype, she enlisted the help of a Broadway costume designer to develop a product to take to market.  She and her husband invested their life savings into the business that is now serving breast cancer patients and hospitals in and around her hometown of Richmond, VA. The Look Better Than You Feel costs $75 and can be billed to Medicare and insurance companies as a post-surgical garment.

“You can wear it hospital to home, street to sleep and every doctor’s visit in between,” says Newlen who also spends time running the Christian service organization she founded, SweetMonday

Newlen just went through her second reconstruction surgery and says she still wears her camisoles.  She has been heartened to hear from other survivors who are using the garments.  She says the sweetest reward is knowing that she is helping to make women’s lives easier when they are down in the trenches and trying to be strong for their families.

“As a mother, your hear your cancer diagnosis and you hear it for your children and your family and you realize, now you have to add on a whole new job to your life,” she says, “I want to simplify things for those moms.”

Love The New You: Say It!

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008

new youBy Rebecca Rodskog, Rodskog Change Consulting
Words have power.  It’s undeniable.  Whether they come from our politicians or our spouses, words define our lives.  It’s surprising, then, that so few of us know how to use our words to get what we want out of life.  Most of my initial conversations with my clients center around unlocking the dreams that are trapped within them…those things that have never been uttered aloud.  And you know what happens?  Once the words are spoken, the idea becomes real, and the path to that dream easily begins to present itself.
 
Vocalization:  Tell them what you want!
A few months ago we talked about the 5 tools for successful growth.  Vocalization  is the third of those tools.  Vocalization is a two-part process.  The first part is internal:  defining what you want by speaking it aloud.  The second part is external:  expressing what you want to the right audiences, so that expectations are set and support and resources align in order to assist you on your journey to success.  The process below can help take you from things you just “dream” about to action.
 
The Process of Vocalization:  Unlocking and expressing your dreams!
 
1. Talk it out:  The first step is to really spend some time discussing what it is that you want to do.  Sit down with someone (a coach, a friend, your spouse, a sibling, a parent) who cares about your happiness.  Talk to them about what it is you want.  This could be anything from seemingly “small” things (to take an art class) to “big” things (change your career).

2. Get clear:  Once you’ve talked about what you want, get clear about it.  Have the person you are talking to ask you who/what/where/when/why?  You need to get as specific as possible.  A great technique for this is called a “future pull.”  Basically, fast forward yourself in time as if you have already achieved the thing you want, and talk about it as if you’re giving a friend an update on your life.  For example, if your goal is to act in a national TV commercial, talk to you friend as if you’ve already booked and filmed the commercial.  Give as many details as possible.  By doing this you’ll discover the true details of what you desire, as well as get specific about your request.

3. Identify key messages:  Once you’ve gotten specific about what you want, identify the few key messages that will be easy to communicate to others about what you want.  For example, if you want to puppy, identify:  1) why you want a puppy 2) what kind of puppy you want 3) when you want a puppy and 4) what others can do to help you get a puppy.  The last part is essential.  Most people are willing and able to help you get what you want, but sometimes they need a little direction in what role they can play in your success.  If you think about it ahead of time and are specific in your request, it makes it that much easier for them to help you!

4. Identify your audiences:  Who can help you get what you want?  Think BIG!  Don’t just put it all on your spouse or best friend – and don’t limit your network’s ability to help!  You never know who might be able to help you.  For example, if you are thinking about changing your career, and are looking for people to talk to about the new profession, don’t just limit your request to those you know who are in it – let EVERYONE IN YOUR NETWORK know what you are looking for – you never know who might know someone who can help you!  Again, try to be as specific as you can about your request:  do you want informational interviews?  Do you just want to talk to someone about their job?  Are you looking for classes?  Pinpoint exactly how you think each “audience” can help you:  your spouse may play a different role than your parents or friends.

5. Tell them about it: The last step is easy – just get it out there!  Tell everyone what you want and how they can help you get it.  You’ll be amazed and most likely overwhelmed at the outpouring of guidance and assistance you will get.  And people close to you will feel honored that you let them in on your dreams, and are asking for their help in fulfilling them.
 
Next Month:  Measurement:   Making your goals measurable so you know how to achieve them, and when you’ve reached them!
 
Got a question for Rebecca? We’d love to hear from you!
Email: heather@thewellmom.com
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Rebecca Rodskog is a NYC based personal life coach, change management consultant, actress and mom.  She has worked with corporations and individuals for over 15 years helping them grow through change in the workplace and at home.  For more information, check out www.rodskog.com.
 
 

Fast Veggie Feast

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008

veggieBy Aviva Goldfarb, Founder, The Scramble
Mango and Black Bean Salad

Prep + Cook = 20 minutes + 20 minutes – 24 hours to chill (optional)
6 servings

I’ve recreated a delightful salad that our friend, Tricia Nudelman enjoyed at the Genesis retreat in El Balam, Mexico.  It’s spa-healthy yet satisfying enough for hearty eaters.  Serve it with sliced avocados sprinkled with fresh lime juice and lightly salted.  

1 cup quick-cooking brown rice (about 2 cups prepared)
15 oz. canned black beans, drained and rinsed
1 – 1 1/2 cups fresh or frozen mango, cut in 1/2-inch chunks
1/4 sweet yellow onion, such as Vidalia, finely diced (about 1 cup)
1/4 cup scallions or chives, green parts only, finely chopped
1 lime, juice only (2 – 3 Tbsp.)
1/4 cup fresh cilantro, chopped (optional)
1/4 tsp. salt, or more to taste
6 large Boston or butter lettuce leaves (optional) (reserve remaining lettuce for recipe # 5)
6 whole wheat tortillas for serving (optional)

Cook the rice according to the package directions.  Remove it from the heat immediately when it is done cooking.  (If you want to serve the Mango and Black Bean salad immediately rather than allowing it to chill for a while, put the rice in the freezer for 5 minutes to cool it.)  

Meanwhile, in a large bowl, combine the beans, mango, onions, scallions, lime juice and cilantro (optional).  Combine the rice with the ingredients in the large bowl, season it with the salt, and toss it gently.  Chill it for at least 10 minutes (an hour or more is ideal) and up to 24 hours.  (Meanwhile, slice the avocado and sprinkle it with the lime juice and salt.)  

Serve the salad on its own or wrapped in large lettuce leaves or warm tortillas, or both, topped with the sliced avocado, if desired.   

Scramble Flavor Booster:  Stir in fresh cilantro and serve the salad with spicy salsa.  

Tip:  If you don’t like raw onions, sauté the onions first until they are lightly browned.  If you have picky eaters, put some of the beans and rice aside before combining all the ingredients and let them have simple black bean and rice burritos with mango on the side.  

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Nutritional Information per serving (with 1 whole wheat tortilla) (% based upon daily values):
Calories 300, Total Fat 4.5g, 7%, Saturated Fat 1.5g, 8%, Cholesterol 0mg, 0%, Sodium 760mg, 31%, Total Carbohydrate 57g, 19% Dietary Fiber 7g, 28% Sugar 6g, Protein 9g

Nutritional Information per serving (with 1/3 avocado with lime and salt) (% based upon daily values):
Calories 396, Total Fat 13.5g, 21%, Saturated Fat 2.5g, 14%, Cholesterol 0mg, 0%, Sodium 920mg, 37%, Total Carbohydrate 62g, 21% Dietary Fiber 11g, 44% Sugar 6g, Protein 10g

Fight Breast Cancer

Monday, September 22nd, 2008

breast cancerThe Well Mom and Mama Mio are proud to team up this month to promote breast cancer awareness and to raise money for the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. Sign up for The Well Mom weekly email from October 1st through the 31st and TWM will donate $1 to BCRF for each person who registers…Plus you’ll be entered to win one of Mama Mio’s amazing “Bootcamp for Boobs” skincare and workout kits.  

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Fitter After 40

Thursday, September 18th, 2008

fitterBy Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
Fitness guru Julie Barroukh wants to do for resistance training what Suzanne Somers did for the “Thigh Master.”  

“Women NEED to do weight training. Period. Cardiovascular exercise and stretching are other important components of a well-rounded fitness program. But weights are key,” she tells The Well Mom.  Her message is reaching a national audience.  She’s featured in the October issue of MORE magazine, as a healthy role model who is fitter and stronger today at age 44 than she was at age 20.

Preaching the benefits of resistance work comes from a very personal place for this Los Angeles mom.  The mother of three dropped all of her baby weight and went from a size 12 to a size 4 through muscle building workouts.  Yet it took nearly a decade to generate the motivation to get her tush to the gym.

After having three babies in less than four years, Barroukh says she didn’t recognize herself.  One day she caught a glimpse of her sleep deprived self in a mirror and realized she had become someone she barely knew.

“The woman I saw was fat and frumpy…I decided it was time to get my body back,” she says.

The next morning, she signed up for some personal training sessions.  From the start, weights became a central part of her routine three days a week.  Gradually, she started ramping up her heart rate with the elliptical cross trainer, treadmill, and Stairmaster in addition to cutting back on junk food and her portion sizes.   Eight months later, Julie was 40 pounds lighter and on the verge of making another major life change.
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With her newfound passion for exercise, Julie became a certified personal trainer and parlayed her expertise as a former TV producer into developing “Moms With Muscle,” a series of fitness DVD’s (www.juliebfit.com).

Today, she is still a size 4 and keeping up the habits that changed her life.

“I’m just amazed at the power of my body. And it feels good because I know I’m taking care of it now,” she says.