Archive for December, 2008

Sneaky Ways To Burn Calories

Tuesday, December 16th, 2008


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By Sahar Aker, FatfighterTV.com

The hustle and bustle of the season may make it harder for you to fit exercise into your schedule.But even if you don’t have time for your regular routine, squeezing ina few minutes is definitely better than blowing it off completely.

ACE Certified Personal Trainer and Group Fitness Instructor, Rita Beckford, M.D., helped me come up with some creative ideas for all of us. Here is a list of 5 to get you going:

  • Walk in the mall before you shop for holiday gifts- this is Dr. Beckford’s absolute favorite. She recommends going beforethe mall opens so you don’t get distracted. Try to fit in 30 minutesbefore you start shopping.
  • Include dancing at your holiday dinner parties.“Try cultural favorites or good old-fashioned line dancing,” suggestsBeckford. “After dinner but before dessert, your guests will love youfor it.”
  • Exercise videos – take a break from the giftwrapping and get a little cardio in your day. You don’t have to leavethe house, and it will feel good to move around after sitting still forso long.
  • Do jumping jacks while the cookies bake instead of just sitting around waiting for them.
  • Bundle up and walk around to enjoy the holiday lights with friends instead of taking the car.

Remember – a little exercise here and there adds up, so the pounds don’t have a chance to!

Love The New You: Celebrate!

Sunday, December 14th, 2008

celebrateBy Rebecca Rodskog, Rodskog Change Consulting
A few months ago we talked about the 5 tools for successful growth.  Celebration is the last of those tools, and the one that most people forget about.  And it is OH so powerful.  We are good at celebrating our children’s or love one’s accomplishments, but what about our own?  How often do you pat yourself on the back for all you do?  Or point it out to friends so that they can celebrate the wonderfulness of you?  Probably not enough.

Celebration is powerful because it reminds you to focus on the wonderfulness of your accomplishments, which in turn attracts more accomplishments and celebration!  Who doesn’t want THAT kind of a life – one steeped in gratitude and love and celebration?  I’m going to give you a few tips on how to celebrate YOU and all that you’ve done:

Celebration:  Taking the Time to Take Note – Top tips for Celebrating YOU
1.    Sit down for ½ an hour and write a list of all you did this year – make sure to include everything – not just the things that you set out to do at the beginning of the year, but all the other things that came up along the way (and yes, keeping the family in clean clothes all year COUNTS)!  It may help to go month by month.  

2.    To knock #1 up a notch, have a celebration party with your family where you all get to talk about what you did and every do the list with your kids and spouse — have them make a list, too – and share!  And then eat cake to celebrate!

3.    At the end of each day, write down at least three things that you did that day.  Again, the little things TOTALLY count (for some newborn mommies, this may be getting a shower!).  If doing this daily is too much, try doing it weekly, maybe with your spouse or children during dinner.

4.    At the end of the year, write a holiday letter, discussing what your family was up to.  If you’re shy about listing all your “accomplishments,” you can talk in generalizations about all the things you are grateful for.  This bit of reflection will help you realize all you accomplished, even if you aren’t listing it out in detail.

5.    Before setting goals (resolutions), take the time to think about what you accomplished already and why.  Chances are, the things you accomplished were value-based and gave you joy, vs. things that you felt you “should” do.   Make sure your list for 2009 is full of things that will make you feel good!

6.    Treat yourself!!!  When you DO accomplish something, make sure you are celebrating it!  Take yourself out for coffee, buy yourself something, or if that’s not in your budget, reward yourself with an hour of pleasure-reading or a bath.  There are a million ways to give yourself the recognition you need and deserve.  Make a list of all the things that you think are “extras”, and keep it handy to use when you want to celebrate something.    

7.    Write about it:  if you keep a journal, make sure to have an extra space for “things I did today/this week/this year”.  If you don’t regularly journal, write yourself a letter as if you were your own mom or dad, touting off all of your accomplishments and how proud you are of them.  

8.    â€œOne for you, one for me!”  When you find yourself touting the praises of someone else (family, friend or other), take two seconds to think of something that you’ve done well or you are proud of.  Even if you just think it in your head, it will get you used to recognizing all that you do!

Here’s to all you do and all you will do in 2009!

Next Month:  Gratitude:   How being grateful is the key to attracting all that you want in life!

Got a question for Rebecca? We’d love to hear from you! Tell us how you celebrate your own accomplishments and we’ll enter you in a drawing for a free coaching session with Rebecca!  Email: heather@thewellmom.com

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Rebecca Rodskog is a NYC based personal life coach, change management consultant, actress and mom.  She has worked with corporations and individuals for over 15 years helping them grow through change in the workplace and at home.  For more information, check out www.rodskog.com

Five Secrets of The Naturally Slim

Sunday, December 14th, 2008

slimBy Megan McMorris, Prevention
We all have that one thin friend–the one who’s never bullied into submission by the bread basket, and when she says “I’ll just have a bite,” she does just that. Is she for real?

Turns out, research shows that thin people simply don’t think about food the same way as–well, the rest of us. “Thin people have a relaxed relationship with food,” explains David L. Katz, MD, an associate professor adjunct in public health at Yale University. “Those who are overweight, however, tend to be preoccupied by it. They focus on how much or how often they eat, or attach labels like good and bad to certain foods. As a result, mealtime is always on the brain.”

Here, weight loss experts explore the mysterious minds of the “naturally” slim. Learn what they do, what they don’t, and how you can act the part.

1. They Choose Satisfied Over Stuffed
On a fullness scale of 1 to 10, the slim stop eating at a level of 6 or 7, says Jill Fleming, RD, author of Thin People Don’t Clean Their Plates. The rest of us may keep going to an 8 or 10. Why? It may be because you mistakenly equate the sensation of fullness with satisfaction and feel deprived if you stop short, says Fleming. Or you may just be used to finishing what’s in front of you, regardless of whether you really need it.

Copy Them: About halfway through your next meal, put your fork down and, using the 1 to 10 scale, rate your level of fullness. Do it again when you have about five bites left. The goal is to increase your awareness of how satisfied you feel during a meal. (Bonus: It also slows down your eating, which allows the sensation of fullness to settle in.)

2. They Realize Hunger Isn’t An Emergency
Most of us who struggle with extra pounds tend to view hunger as a condition that needs to be cured–and fast, says Judith S. Beck, PhD, author of the new Beck Diet Solution. “If you fear hunger, you might routinely overeat to avoid it,” she says. Thin people tolerate it because they know hunger pangs always come and go, buying them some time.

Copy Them: Pick a busy day to purposely delay lunch by an hour or two. Or try skipping an afternoon snack one day. You’ll see that you can still function just fine. Then next time you feel those grumbles, you’ll hold off before making a beeline for the fridge.

Check out these related links:
Health Food Imposters
No-Fail Weight Loss Tricks
Top 10 Belly Flattening Foods
Healthy Eating, No Matter What The Holiday

3. They Don’t Use Food To Cure The Blues
It’s not that thin women are immune to emotional eating, says Kara Gallagher, PhD, a weight loss expert based in Louisville. But they tend to recognize when they’re doing it and stop.

Copy Them: Add the word ‘Halt’ to your vocabulary, says Gallagher. More than just a command (as in stop eating that entire sleeve of cookies), it’s an acronym that stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired–the four most common triggers for emotional eating. If you’re truly hungry,  choose a balanced snack, such as a handful of nuts, to tide you over until your next meal. But if you’re angry, lonely, or tired, seek an alternative calorie-free solution to your emotional need. Blow off steam by going for a run or just jumping around–the heartbeat boost will help dissipate your anger. Lonely? Call a friend, e-mail your kid, or walk to the park or mall. Being around others will make you feel more connected to your community (even if you don’t bump into anyone you know). If you’re tired, for heaven’s sake, sleep!

4. They’re Creatures Of Habit
Any dietitian will tell you that a varied diet is good–but too much variety can backfire, says Katz, author of The Flavor Point Diet. Studies have shown that too many tastes and textures encourage you to overeat, he explains. “Thin people have what I call a food groove–the majority of their meals consist of well-planned staples,” says Beck. “There are a few surprises thrown in, but for the most part, their diets are fairly predictable.”

Copy Them: Try to be as consistent as possible with your major meals–have cereal for breakfast, a salad at lunch, and so forth. It’s okay to add grilled chicken to the salad one day and tuna the next, but by sticking to a loosely prescribed meal schedule, you limit the opportunities to overindulge.

5. They Have A Self-Control Gene
Researchers at Tufts University found that the biggest predictor of weight gain among women in their 50s and 60s was their level of disinhibition, or unrestrained behavior. Women with low disinhibition (in other words, a finely tuned sense of restraint) had the lowest body mass index. High disinhibition (i.e., low restraint) was linked to an adult weight gain of as much as 33 pounds.

Copy Them: Prepare for moments when your disinhibition is likely to be higher–such as when you’re in a festive atmosphere with a large group of friends. If you’re at a party, tell yourself you’ll take one of every fourth passed hors d’oeuvre. If you’re out at dinner, order an appetizer portion and share dessert. Or if you’re stressed–another low-restraint moment–make sure you have a source of crunchy snacks (like fruit or carrot sticks) at the ready.
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Wallet Friendly Wines

Monday, December 8th, 2008

wineLaurie Forster, a.k.a., The Wine Coach, offers some ideas for budget sipping this season.  Here are four ways to raise a glass and celebrate the season for less.

1.  Go exploring
• For great value wines, Forster suggests exploring bottles from lesser known
regions. For example, Italian wine fans might want to buck the
Barolos of Piedmont and try a Gattinara instead. Gattinara is found in a
more northern section of Piedmont but uses the same trademark grape of
Barolo Nebbiolo. Spanish wines still offer great value, and are becoming
increasingly popular in the U.S.; Forster recommends trying a juicy
Monastrell from Jumilla, Spain, which remains an affordable alternative to
big reds from California and France.  

2. Variety is the spice of wine
• Venture into unfamiliar territory by sampling new grape varieties.
Hundreds exist, and many times, the lesser known grape varieties provide
the best bargains. White wine enthusiasts might want to look for Gruner
Veltliner from Austria or Torrontes from Argentina; red wine lovers might
opt for Nero d’Avola from Sicily or the medium-bodied Chilean
Carmenère.

3. Buy quantity and quality at the same time  
• To get the best prices, Forster suggests buying wines by the case. Not only
does it save money on the wine, it also saves on gas, cutting out multiple
trips to the wine store. Some wine stores offer 10%-15% (or more)
discounts on wines by the case to regular customers.  

4. Taste lots of wine
• Become familiar with your preferences. Many wine stores conduct free
tastings frequently, and use every opportunity to introduce yourself to all
kinds of wine so you don’t waste money on something that doesn’t suit
you.

Does Your Love Life Need A Lift?

Wednesday, December 3rd, 2008

loveBy Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
When she’s not teaching yoga and helping moms get fit, family therapist Sara Holliday coaches couples on improving their love lives.  The San Diego-based relationship expert and owner of Fit By Sara, spends a great deal of time encouraging men and women to be more assertive with their partners about intimacy.  According to Holliday, a married mom of two, great communication is the key to great sex.  The problem, though, is classic the Mars/Venus conundrum –  “Guys don’t get women and women don’t get guys,” she explains.  So – what to do?  Put some effort into understanding your partner better. Holliday says trying to be more aware of what’s going on inside his head will actually make you desire him more.  Here are her six steps for better communication…and intimacy.

Remember he needs sex. “Guys physically need a “release.” And when they do, it produces feel good hormones,” says Holliday.

Stop picking on him. “Guys can’t stand nags.  Keep the little irritations to yourself and focus on the big picture,” she explains.

Praise him. “Guys love to feel appreciated.  Let him know that you appreciate the things he does for you and your family.”

Let him wear the pants.  “Guys like to be guys and get irritated when
their woman takes over everything.  Let him take care of things in his own
way,” she advises.

More connection equals greater desire.  “Spend some quality time together watch your libido rise,” she says.  In other words, find a sitter or a loved one to give you two an evening or afternoon off.

Set the Mood.  Ambiance goes a long way.  Holliday says “Candles, romantic music, massage oil equal HOT, HOT, HOT!”
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Take The Sleep Quiz

Monday, December 1st, 2008

By Laura Stack, The Productivity Pro
Sometimes I wish I were a bear, so I could hibernate for six months. Alas, I’m only human. How much sleep do you think the average adult gets per night?  A National Sleep Foundation poll of 1000 adults found that 1/3 get less than 7 hours per night and only 1/3 are getting the recommended 8 hours per night.  John Shepard, medical director of the Mayo Clinic Sleep Disorders Center, says that most adults need between 7 ½ and 8 ½ hours of sleep per night, teens need 9 hours and 15 minutes, and small children need more.

The poll actually also showed that 85% of people would sleep more, if they were convinced it would contribute to a happier life. 

The Mayo clinic defines an adequate amount of sleep as whatever produces daytime alertness and a feeling of well-being.  You shouldn’t need an alarm clock to wake you up if you are getting enough sleep.  So let’s test your level of sleep deprivation!

Answer the following questions “yes” or “no”:

1.      Do you get sleepy while at your desk during the day?
2.      Do you consistently get grumpy or feel low?                                             
3.      Do you need an alarm clock to wake you up in the morning?                
4.      Do you hit an afternoon “slump” after you eat?                                        
5.      If you were a passenger in a car for an hour during the day, would you nod off if you didn’t take a break?                                            
6.      Would you fall asleep if you sat quietly and read during the day?       
7.      Are you likely to doze off while watching TV during the day?              
8.      Do you get fewer than six hours of sleep at night?                                    
Total number of “yes” answers: _______                                                           

Check your score to see how sleepy you are:

1 – 3              Congratulations, you are getting enough sleep!
4 – 5              You are sleep deprived.
6 and up      Seek the advice of a sleep specialist!
If your score is 6 or higher, you might want to consider having your primary care physician order an oximetry test on you, just to rule out a more serious problem.  If your score is moderate and shows you’re simply not sleeping enough, here are some ideas to help you sleep better:

Slow your pace. Avoid activities that stimulate you, such as fast video games, arguing with a spouse, or working out, at least an hour before bedtime, preferably more. With all its sounds, lights, and color, TV-watching can be especially stimulating. Yes, you may get drowsy and doze off in front of the television, but you’ll have to wake again to settle into a sleeping position, and then experience wakefulness during the night. Your body may be tired, but your brain waves are very active after watching television. Instead, select non-stimulating activities such as light reading, ironing, doing dishes, taking a bath, or writing letters for at least one hour before bedtime.

Clear your mind. Write down everything you’re thinking about that must be done the next day. Lying in bed awake with all those reminders running through your head will prevent you from sleeping soundly. If you’re stewing over an issue with someone, journal or write a draft email but don’t send it. (In fact, you’re safest not to even put their email address in the “to” field so your trigger-happy finger doesn’t accidentally go off.) Waiting 24 hours after you’ve vented on paper will give you a better perspective, and you’ll probably be glad you put time between your writing and sending that message.  The bonus? You were able to get to sleep.

Train your brain. I read an article about how some babies sleep better when exposed to the sound of a heartbeat or another “white” noise. I figured it couldn’t hurt to try it on adults, too. So for Christmas last year, I bought John a sound machine. He played with the different noises and selected the “ocean” sound, with waves crashing on the shore. From December 25 until January 3, he played this sound while drifting off to sleep. On January 3, we went on vacation to Cancun, Mexico, with the family and were lucky enough to get an Oceanside room. John didn’t even need his sound machine! For someone who doesn’t usually sleep well in hotels, I was so amazed how deeply and long he slept. He was always the last one to get up in the morning. I think that Cancun vacation may well be one of his favorites, simply because he got such great sleep!

Form good sleep habits. When you lie down, can you fall asleep within a matter of minutes?  No?  Then you might not have the right mental association to your bed.  When you get in your bed, your brain should tell your body to shut down and go to sleep.  Unfortunately, many people crawl into bed and don’t put their heads on the pillow.  They eat.  They watch television.  They read.  They do paperwork.  They have conversations with their significant other.  They worry.  As a result, these associations encourage wakefulness, and the brain soon disassociates the bed with sleep.  When you finally tell it, “Okay, I’m serious now,” it takes longer to get the message.  Only use your bed for sleeping and intimate relations with your significant other.  Eating, watching television, reading, working on your computer, and any other activity should be done out of bed, preferably in a completely different room.  Your bedroom should be your sleeping sanctuary—a place where your mind automatically goes to sleep.  You’re better off doing something relaxing an hour before bedtime, such as a warm bath, aromatherapy, knitting, petting your cat, doing dishes, or reading. If you wake up during the night and don’t fall back to sleep in 15 minutes, get up. Write down everything you’re thinking about. Then try to sleep again 15 minutes later. If don’t get up, over time your body will adjust to tossing and turning instead of sleeping.

Eat and drink to sleep.  Elizabeth L. Vliet, M.D., author of It’s my Ovaries, Stupid! says to take 200 to 400 mg of magnesium and 500 mg of calcium thirty to sixty minutes before bedtime to help your body prepare for sleep.  “Studies show that your brain needs adequate levels of these vitamins, along with optimal levels of estradiol, in order to regular sleep,” says Vliet.  Avoid eating a large meal just before bedtime; however, don’t go to bed ravenous—it’s about balance—have a light snack if you must.  Breus says “milk, tuna, halibut, pumpkin, artichokes, avocados, almonds, eggs, peaches, walnuts, apricots, oats, asparagus, potatoes, and bananas” all promote good sleep.  Also watch the alcohol before bedtime.  Alcohol can indeed make you sleepy, but it is considered a stimulant and will cause wakeful sleep, nightmares, sweats, and headaches as your body clears it from your system.  Try warm milk instead or even a Benadryl if you’re desperate.  If you want to avoid midnight trips to the bathroom, stop drinking large amounts early in the evening.  I go to bed at 10:00, and I stop drinking at 7:00.  If I’m thirsty, I take a small sip of water.

Record your “can’t miss” late night shows. I often hear this excuse for staying up late: “I love the Jay Leno Show, and it’s on late.” That’s no reason to not go to bed on time.  Open your user’s manual and finally figure out how to program your VCR to record your favorite shows.  Or subscribe to DirectTV, use Tivo, or record to DVD. Then you can watch them on your own time, not when it’s time to sleep (and skip through the commercials to save time).

Protect your sleep when you travel.  If you are traveling to a location with drastic time zone differences, try resetting your body clock several days in advance.  Wake up, eat, and go to bed earlier or later, depending upon your goal, until you approximate the day-night pattern you’ll be adapting at your destination.  Some globe-trotters have told me they even reset their watches to the destination time, so they can make the psychological switch as well.  Try to get additional sleep before leaving and during your flight.  Avoid alcohol (two alcoholic drinks consumed in a pressurized cabin have the physical effect of four drinks at sea level), caffeine, and high-calorie meals.  Try to arrive a day earlier than necessary, so your brain can make adjustments before you’re expected to be coherent.  In general, allow for about a day on either end to allow your body to adjust.

Make it a productive day! â„¢

© Copyright 2008 Laura Stack.  All rights reserved.
Laura Stack is a personal productivity expert, author, and professional speaker who helps busy workers Leave the Office Earlier® with Maximum Results in Minimum Timeâ„¢. She is the president of The Productivity Pro®, Inc., a time management training firm specializing in productivity improvement in high-stress organizations. Since 1992, Laura has presented keynotes and seminars on improving output, lowering stress, and saving time in today’s workplaces. She is the bestselling author of the books Find More Time (2006) and Leave the Office Earlier (2004). Her newest productivity book, The Exhaustion Cure (Broadway Books), hits bookstores in May 2008. To have Laura speak at your next event, call 303-471-7401. Visit www.TheProductivityPro.com to sign up for her free monthly productivity newsletter.

Six Bad Mood Busters

Monday, December 1st, 2008

moodBy Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
We all have down days. You know the ones when you wake up cranky and even if the sun is shining, you’re annoyed … or maybe just feeling a little sad or unfocused. You could go on a shopping binge, blow off your workout, or spend your day snapping at everyone around you. But after I went through a little funk recently, I started thinking about how I could have turned it around. What if taped up on my bathroom mirror was a handy checklist of quick ways to boost my spirits? Little things I could incorporate into my busy routine. So I started thinking about some of the small stuff that really does give me a lift. None of the activities on my list require money or much time. I’m not a psychologist or a life coach. And of course, these ideas are no substitute for regular exercise (a natural mood booster), getting enough rest, and eating well, etc. But maybe they can give you another way to see things when you would rather crawl back in bed.

1. Get a change of scenery.
It works for small children, right? Ever notice how you can turn the most outrageous tantrum into a giggle fit just by leading your baby into another room and showing her a new toy? We can boost our own moods by doing the same. You don’t have to plan an expensive adventure to some exotic locale (although that helps, too). Sometimes getting a change of scenery in the tiniest, most mundane ways can alter perspective on much bigger things. Perhaps eating dinner at the table instead of the couch? Take a different route on your way to work or school. Stand up while you are talking on the phone instead of sitting at your desk. Shake up the little things and see how it can transform your view.

2. Listen to someone else’s story (for a change).
When we are feeling down about something, it can be hard to be a good listener. But many times, pausing to really hear about someone else’s life can do wonders for our own heads. Inspiration hits us when we least expect it. I recently had the chance to sit down with someone who now spends her days telling other people’s stories of triumph. You may remember Daryn Kagan, a CNN anchor for twelve years before her bosses unceremoniously informed her she no longer had a job with the cable network. Instead of staying home with the covers pulled over her head, she turned her energies into www.darynkagan.com, a webcast devoted to “good news.” Her focus on the art of the possible uncovers the victories of everyday people trying to make the world a better place. That’s a message all of us could use—especially when we’re feeling blah.

3. Help a stranger.
Hold the door for someone. Offer to carry a heavy package or box. Give directions when asked. A little kindness goes a long way. You’ll immediately feel happier when you take a minute to assist another human being—even in the smallest way.

4. Call a friend.
When my girlfriends and I have time to call each other, we attempt to fit in a conversation between naptime and conference calls. It can be hard to feel connected when you are just about to start ranting and the baby wakes up from her nap. Kids display this amazing sixth sense for figuring out the exact time to interrupt Mommy when she is just about to finally talk to another adult about what’s bugging her today. But … my point is, even if we never get to finish the whole discussion, I always feel better after a brief “Hi/Bye.” And you know what? So will your friend on the other end of the line.

5. Clean out a drawer.
Anyone who has either worked with me or lived with me knows that I have a really hard time letting go of stuff. Everything has sentimental value. But as a mom of twin toddlers, with a home growing more cramped by the day thanks to all of their stuff, I am trying really hard to streamline. The best advice anyone gave me is to start small. So take a few minutes and trash the old receipts and broken CD covers taking up space. Clearing out a single drawer, shelf or even your email inbox really does make you feel lighter.

6. Eat something decadent.
I’m not talking about scarfing down a package of Oreos. When we’re feeling low, it’s too easy to self-medicate with food. I say, eat something terribly rich but do so in a purposeful way. Take a moment to actually enjoy it and let go of the guilt. For me, it’s all about dark chocolate. Oh—heck, anything chocolate. But it really does taste better when I actually sit down to eat it.

Holiday Money Savers

Monday, December 1st, 2008

By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
So I was reading the New York Times the other day nodding my head as I scanned the headline, “To Buy Gifts, Mothers Do Without.”  It’s not really news that moms sacrifice for their kids.  But I found it interesting to read about surveys that quantify just how selfless moms plan to be this year with the country stuck in a stubborn economic downtown.  The story pointed out that 61% of mothers told questioners from the NPD Group that they would shop less for themselves this year compared to 56% of all women and 45% of men.  Over the last several weeks in my role as Web Life Editor for Yahoo!, I ‘ve been spending some time looking for ways to help families save money this season using the web.  Here are a few tips for moms looking to squeeze more out of family budgets.  Perhaps you’ll still have a little left over to treat yourself to something nice, too. You deserve it.
 
Strategize Before You Sign On
We all know that shopping online saves time.  But if you have a game plan in place, you can really stretch your dollar this season – especially because retailers are looking for any way to prop up the potentially dismal season.  The number of discounts and deals you can find online is infinite and can be overwhelming.  So before you dive in, figure out your budget and your gift list.  A great resource is www.practicalmoneyskills.com.  It’s a financial literacy website created by Visa that features a Holiday Spending calculator in which you can plug in your annual income and it will suggest a budget.  You can also create a very useful Gift Log in which you enter each person’s name, the amount you plan to spend and the actual amount you spend when you purchase the gift.  The log will calculate what you are laying out so you know if you are on target with your budget.
 
Comparison Shop
Once you have your list and spending priorities in place, start comparison shopping.  It takes just a couple of minutes to search for prices by opening up a few browser windows on your computer.  Start with the major shopping portals, including,  shopping.yahoo.com, www.shopzilla.com, and www.shopping.com.  Then plug in the specific item you want with as much detail possible.  If you are searching for a generic pink cashmere sweater, you aren’t going to find the best deals.  This works best with toys or electronics or name brand clothing or cosmetics.  When I decided to look for the Tinkerbell DVD I purchased at Target for $19.99, I found a range of 19 different online prices from a low of $13.98 on Amazon all the way to $21.79 on Deep Discounts.com (with a 25% off coupon).  Be cautious, though, of ecommerce sites you have never heard of.  You can quickly check on a site’s reputation by looking on the Better Business Bureau site, www.bbb.org.
 
Coupons
But before you click and purchase what seems like the best deal, do a quick search of coupons.  For example, if you go to Yahoo! Deals on the shopping.yahoo.com, you will find a coupons tab.  Look for the merchant.  You may be able to find a code to give you free shipping, wrapping or a rebate with your online purchase. Better yet, if you still love the tradition of scouring the mall, look for in-store coupons, too.  But remember, if you buy at a brick and mortar store, depending on where you live, you will pay sales tax.  Many times, you will not pay sales tax when you buy online – unless the retailer has a physical presence in your state.  You can also do a simple search by plugging in the retailer’s name and “50% OFF” or “discounts” and see what pops up. There are a bunch of other new coupon sites to check out, too — www.retailmenot.com and www.dealnews.com

If you’re expecting a house full of company, you can also find ways to save.  Take a look at www.coupons.com for some savings on household staples.  If you can’t stand clipping coupons out of the weekly circulars, you will really enjoy the ease of clicking on the coupons you want and printing out the page at home.  The key is making your list before you scan for deals.
 
Check Your Email
Yes, those promotional emails from stores clutter our inboxes -  But this time of the year, it might pay to open up the correspondence from Williams-Sonoma, Disney and other merchants.  Often the newsletters feature coupon codes that will help you trim your costs, too.  Remember, with the dismal economic climate, retailers are trying very hard this season to offer attractive incentives to buy.
 
Consider Sending Ecards
Of course it wouldn’t be the Christmas (or Hannukah, Kwanza etc) without writing up your family’s annual holiday letter and mailing out cards.  But between printing costs and postage, you can spend a lot of cash.  There are a few really nice ecard sites that allow you to customize your greetings for free. Check out www.postcard.fm in which you can upload a photo of choice and select a song to go with it.  I also really like www.designhergals.com.  It’s a site that lets you choose your own digital doll with outfits, accessories and even hairstyles to personalize your holiday message.  Not only will you save money – but going electronic is also eco-friendly.

Stay Slim With Him

Monday, December 1st, 2008

By Rachel Meltzer Warren, Prevention
Your husband’s weight – not his sparkling eyes or sense of humor – may have been what drew you to him, finds new research in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. Couples tend to share similar body fat levels when they meet – and are likely to stay that way over the years. Similarly, other research shows that if one partner improves his/her habits, the other may follow suit.

Here are a few ways you can both live healthfully ever after:

Bond Over Breakfast
Many studies show that breakfast eaters are less likely to be overweight than those who skip their morning meal. Set aside 15 minutes to eat together before you head out the door.

Avoid Snacking Together
Just because one of you is a snacker doesn’t mean you both have to be. Stop and consider whether you’re actually hungry or just “eating with company” before digging in, and encourage him to do the same (keep in mind that men generally require more calories per day than women).

Preplan Your Portions
If dinner at home means lingering over a long meal at the dining room table, dole out a portion before you sit down and leave any leftovers in the kitchen. With the extras out of sight, you’ll both be less likely to overeat.

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Break Up The Takeout
If one of you craves a hearty meal (like pizza), but the other wants something a bit lighter (like sushi), place orders at two different restaurants and eat at home as a couple.

Make One Meal Two Ways
Buy groceries for a shared meal that you can each personalize to your liking and to that day’s caloric needs (the same basic ingredients can be used to make a burrito or a lower-calorie Tex-Mex salad).

Stretch Your Drink
Men can usually tolerate more alcohol–and calories. Instead of joining him for seconds, have seltzer with a dash of orange juice and a squeeze of lime. Or ask for half wine and half seltzer, and join in both rounds. Encourage him to stop after two (the amount the USDA says men can drink healthfully).
Prevention