By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom
Perhaps it’s not a new New Year’s resolution. But for some reason this year, it seems like everyone is talking about having more sex. From Dr. Oz’s recent blog on Huffington Post (and his “national sex experiment”) to a recent column in The Guardian to a post I stumbled upon on SheKnows, the message this January seems to be that most of us are not doing it enough and that we need to promise ourselves and our partners that this year, we will make more time for intimacy.
It’s a worthy goal. But let’s get real. It’s hard to feel sexy when you haven’t washed your hair in two days, you can barely keep your eyes open and the little ones are in the next room. Thankfully, The Mominatrix is here to help. She’s calling on the ranks of the sleep deprived, undersexed parents out there and rallying them to try something new in the bedroom for 30 days. In other words, commit to a sexual resolution. Each day, The Mominatrix, aka Kristen Chase, will offer a daily challenge for you to try. Today’s fun task — go through your iTunes playlist and make a mix of the songs that get you and your partner in
the mood.
“Having sex is not rocket science, and for the most part, we can (and probably have) figured everything out. And if not, there are plenty of websites to help us with that. But what’s lacking in the discussion is how difficult the transition from sex goddess to mom and from mom to sex goddess can be,” explains Chase.
A few months ago, I had the pleasure of meeting Chase, who blogs at Motherhood Uncensored, and is the publisher and chief operating officer of Cool Mom Picks, a former college professor and mother of three. Little did I realize when we performed together in Expressing Motherhood, a showcase of mom writers, that she leads an exciting double life as the Mominatrix. I guess her monologue about getting to know her postpartum vagina should have been a dead giveaway.
Through her bi-weekly blog on the Imperfect Parent, she braves some sensitive and very personal territory for modest moms like myself who spend more time shuttling kids from here to there in work out clothes than primping and pampering for a hot date. Her new book – The Mominatrix Guide to Sex: A No Surrender Advice Book is a really fun kick in the pants to motivate time-starved women to slip out of those mom jeans into something a bit more racy.
She says she hopes her frank, non-judgmental advice will encourage moms to perceive sex in a new way.
“I think much of the issues that surround moms and sex have little to do with the act itself, and more to do with taking the time and energy to care for themselves.I’m hoping that through this book (and through the Sexual Resolution challenge), more moms will be having way more “aha” moments,” she says.
So what do you think? Are you up for a sexual resolution in 2010?
