Archive for November, 2011

The Best Time to Do Everything

Wednesday, November 30th, 2011

By Stacey Colino for Live Right Live Well

timeHave you ever noticed that your mind is sharpest in the mid-morning? Or that you can walk farther or faster in the late afternoon? These patterns aren’t a fluke. The reality is that your body has its own internal clock, which triggers 24-hour hormonal and temperature fluctuations that affect how you feel and function throughout the day.

Indeed, “in most people who follow fairly regular schedules and stay awake in the daytime and sleep at night, the ups and downs of most daily rhythms are quite predictable from day to day,” says Michael Smolensky, who has a doctorate in human physiology, is a consultant in the sleep medicine program at the University of Texas Medical School at Houston and is the co-author of The Body Clock Guide to Better Health. This means that if you’re tuned in to your internal body clock, you can optimize your schedule so that you perform and feel your best 24/7. Here’s how:

Pain Tolerance Peaks: 8 a.m. to 10 a.m.
Research at the National Institute of Mental Health found that people are significantly less sensitive to induced pain in the morning than in the afternoon. No one is sure why this is, but a circadian effect on the release of endorphins may play a role, researchers speculate.

Ideal Time For: Dental appointments or minor medical procedures, like having a mole removed.

Mind Is Sharpest: 10 a.m. to 12 p.m.
Mental acuity “tends to rise in the morning, then it dips again at midday before rising again between 3 p.m. and 4 p.m.,” says Smolensky, who is also an adjunct professor of biomedical engineering at The University of Texas at Austin. Brain functions that are affected include reasoning skills, short-term memory, complex decision-making skills and alertness. That explains why firefighters tend to have their fastest response rates during the mid-to-late morning and between 3 p.m. and 4 p.m., according to a recent study from France.

Ideal Time For: Demanding mental tasks, analyzing information, brainstorming and preparing for an afternoon meeting or test.

Time to Take It Easy: 1 p.m. to 3 p.m.
It’s often called the post-lunch dip. At midday, alertness declines and people tend to get sleepy, whether or not they eat lunch. In addition, daydreaming is most frequent around 2 p.m., according to research at the National Institute on Aging. So this isn’t a good time to operate heavy machinery or handle tasks that require close concentration.

Ideal Time For: Mentally easy tasks: interacting with colleagues; making phone calls; taking care of routine administrative chores, like filing; visualizing creative solutions to challenges in your life.

Brain Gets Another Boost: 3 p.m. to 4 p.m.
Mid-afternoon provides the second mental boost of the day, thanks to natural rhythms in brain function. (For more on this, see “Mind is Sharpest” above.)

Exercise Performance Peaks: 5 p.m. to 7 p.m.
Late afternoon and early evening are when you’re likely to give your best performance in physical activities that involve strength, speed and power, possibly because your body temperature peaks during these hours, notes Dr. Thomas W. Rowland, a pediatric cardiologist at Bay State Medical Center in Springfield, Mass., and author of The Athlete’s Clock: How Biology and Time Affect Sports Performance. You also may have more endurance and a greater tolerance for workouts since ratings of perceived exertion are at their lowest in the late afternoon and early evening, reports Rowland.

Ideal Time For: Your daily workout; running; biking; swimming; and competitive sports, like tennis or soccer.

Feeling Sexy: 11 p.m. to 1 a.m.
Whether it’s a matter of convenience or intensified desire, this is the preferred window of time for sex, say researchers at the University of South Carolina.

Ideal Time For: An intimate end to a romantic evening.

Finally, while these hours of power apply to many, “some people are early morning types (larks) and some are evening types (owls), so there can be as much as a four-hour difference in peak times,” notes Smolensky. In addition, “not everyone’s rhythms are as organized as they should be because of sleep deprivation and light exposure at weird times — from computer screens or the bathroom light in the middle of the night,” he adds.

To keep your internal body clock ticking smoothly, try to keep a consistent bedtime and awakening time, advises Smolensky. Then experiment for yourself by tracking how your performance in different areas varies throughout the day, says Rowland. When you work with your body’s natural rhythms, rather than against them, you’ll feel and perform better all day long.

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Stacey Colino has written for The Washington Post‘s health section and many national magazines, including Newsweek, Woman’s Day, SELF, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Parenting, Sports Illustrated and Ladies’ Home Journal.



How to Excuse-Proof Your Workouts

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

By Kara Douglass Thom, Co-Author Hot  (Sweaty) Mamas

workoutThere are no good excuses to skip a workout. That’s right. None. However, there are plenty of good reasons that might interfere with exercise. Excuses take on many forms, but 99.8 percent of them are a variation of “I don’t have time,” or “I’m too tired.” We’ve all been there.

If you’ve ever missed a workout but knew deep down you could have made it happen, an excuse was in play. It’s like telling yourself a little white lie. Another sign: when explaining your decision, you sound like you’re trying to convince yourself—not just other people—that you did the right thing by skipping. As if repeating the story might make it true.

As for good reasons to miss a workout, those are always clear and definitive; they are often out of your control and don’t require any convincing on your part. You have a fever; your child vomited in the back seat on the way to the gym; your boss asked you to stay late to finish a project. You might have access to a Plan B workout option, but if you don’t, no need to feel guilt. This is especially important for those who tend to err on the side of exercising at all costs; who don’t always recognize a good reason to skip a workout when they should.

And just as you would if you missed a workout because of an excuse, a reason not to exercise one day shouldn’t be the end of all future workouts. Tomorrow’s a new day. Will you choose to work out, or not?

Sometimes we need to make trade-offs in life. In the book, Hot (Sweaty) Mamas: Five Secrets to Life as a Fit Mom (Andrews McMeel 2011), we share what we call a “Sweaty Decision Tree” that can guide readers to answer that question, “Should I work out or not?” Variables include whether or not the workout will leave you more or less stressed, what your workout plans were the day before, and if you think a workout is possible the following day.

What may be a good reason one day might be an excuse on another. An excuse for some people might be a good reason for someone else. In order to know the difference on this case-by-case basis you have to be in tune with your body and mind so you can be true to your needs and goals. And if you do miss a workout—whether because of an excuse or a reason—know that it doesn’t have to end your commitment to fitness.

This guest post comes from Kara Douglass Thom, a triathlete, freelance writer and mother of four. She and Laurie Kocanda are the co-authors of Hot (Sweaty) Mamas: Five Secrets to Life as a Fit Mom.

 

WELCOME TO THE WELL MOM!

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

HeatherYou’ve just entered a guilt-free zone…a space where you come first – if only for a precious moment. From food to fitness to fun, think of The Well Mom as the best friend who reminds you it’s okay to take a little you-time every day. Enjoy!

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Why You Need To Get Sweaty This Holiday Season

Friday, November 18th, 2011

By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom

Hot Sweaty MomsLast week, a mom at our school stopped me and said in a friendly, self-deprecating way that I made her feel guilty because she saw me jogging after morning drop-off.  She was joking. Well, sort of. In typical Cabot fashion, I had worn my running clothes to the playground and as soon as I kissed the kids goodbye, I set off on a forty minute run around our neighborhood.  I didn’t go as long or as fast as I wanted. But the time was precious. It set the positive, relaxed tone for my entire day.  The woman went on to lament that she felt she couldn’t get out to exercise because of all of her commitments at the school.  Then I started to feel guilty.  Was I taking too much time for ME?  After about 2 seconds, I told myself, absolutely not. In fact, I don’t think I take enough time.  This is one of the reasons I love the philosophy behind the new book Hot (Sweaty) Mamas by Kara Douglass Thom and Laurie Lethert Kocanda.  It’s a pep talk for moms, just like my friend at the school, those women who don’t give themselves permission to make exercise a daily routine but who know how good they would feel if they did.  The book is written by two moms who know how hard it is to carve out any personal time, let alone time to sweat.

With the holidays on the horizon and the time crunch as we race to the end of the year, it’s a great time to make sure you make time for you.  Some days it may feel like you just can’t do it.  But talk to your spouse or partner, friends and family and tell them that you need help to create time for you to lace up your sneakers even if it’s for 30 minutes.  That’s the best gift you can give yourself and your loved ones this season.   Below, check out the inspirational interview with Laurie and Kara. Enjoy!

Q & A with Author Laurie Lethert Kocanda

Hot Sweaty Moms

What is the biggest fitness mistake moms make?

LK: There’s a big misconception out there that you need large chunks of time to make fitness worthwhile. With that attitude, it’s easy to see why so many moms give up on exercise. The biggest mistake moms make is adopting an all-or-nothing attitude about fitness. Motherhood is full of the unexpected, which oftentimes means things don’t go according to plan. When that happens we have to be content with Plan B, maybe develop a Plan C on the fly, if we’re going get and feel fit. Any exercise is worth when you consider both the mental and physical benefits. You are making small deposits that will eventually pay off. Guaranteed.

How can other members of the family support a mom’s fitness goals?

LK: Having a good support network is essential if Mom’s fit lifestyle is going to take hold. Family members can help by providing encouragement and support—both in action and in word—whenever possible. Help keep Mom accountable by asking about her workouts; show her what a wonderful mentor she is by joining her whenever possible. In this way, she’ll be encouraged to continue on her path to fitness.

What about moms who are too busy for exercise?

LK: Finding time to exercise is really about identifying and living by the priorities in our life. Moms often say they are too busy taking care of their families to fit in exercise, but we have to ask, “Aren’t you a member of the family, too?” In fact, aren’t you a pretty important part of the family equation? Most moms don’t let their kids skip a soccer practice or swim lesson, but don’t hold themselves equally accountable to their fitness endeavors. We have to be creative, but like everything in life that holds value, we will give time to the stuff that really matters.

In your book you talk about how there’s more than one way to exercise. Explain how this applies to new moms and what they can do.

LK: Moms should take comfort knowing that the benefits of exercise are not lost in the absence of a good calorie-burning, cardio-pumping sweat. There are a number of other reasons to workout, beyond maintaining physical fitness and athletic training. So moms who find motherhood more exhausting or time-consuming than they anticipated can fall back on the other reasons to workout, the other types of fitness. For example, some semblance of sanity is the goal when we exercise for mental health. This form of fitness is less about what you’re doing and more about why your doing it. Protective exercise is the foundation on which everything else we do is based; it includes things like strength training, yoga, and Pilates. This flavor of fitness doesn’t require a gym membership or equipment, which is nice for a mom who is less likely to leave the house to workout. A simple routine of squats, pushups, pull-ups and plank are all you need. Truly, exercise doesn’t always have to get you hot and sweaty to be worth your time.

You mention mother guilt as a big barrier to fitness. What is it and how can I keep it in check?

LK: Mother Guilt is that little voice that comes from within telling you it’s selfish to choose a workout over another more “important” mommy task. And while sometimes it is good to listen to your inner voice, too much banter from Mother Guilt is usually an indication that you’ve set unrealistic expectations of yourself and of motherhood in general. “Putting family first” does not mean ignoring your personal wellbeing. You are, after all, a pretty important part of the family, right?

Mother Guilt is prone to unexpected visits. If you want your fit life to take hold, you must first do a little mental training to prepare. Start by identifying your preconceptions of motherhood; perhaps what you thought were parenting no-nos might actually have a place in your life. Maybe 30 minutes of television isn’t so bad if it frees up some time for you to squeeze in a quick workout. Challenge what you’ve accepted as parenting truths and get realistic about what life is really like.

Next, take some time to write down what’s important to you, what values you want to impart on your children. Then work to make health and fitness a value you act on—a priority to which you allocate some time each day. If laundry gets more attention than you do, it’s time to do some more mental work. Saying “no” to something that isn’t a priority will feel good when you use the time freed to attend to something that is. Especially if it means saying goodbye to Mother Guilt.

Q & A with Kara Douglass Thom

What makes Hot (Sweaty) Mamas different from other fitness books for busy moms?

KT: Hot (Sweaty) Mamas is not a how-to-get-your-body-back-after-baby book. It’s about how to make or keep fitness as a priority as a mother; how to protect that priority so that fitness becomes a habit in our hectic lives. But the other important component of this book is how to make fitness a family endeavor so that we not only get fit ourselves but also raise fit kids.

Why is it so important for moms to take care of themselves as well as they take care of their children?

KT: I think it’s interesting that while we’re pregnant we take inordinately good care of ourselves. We do this, of course, because we want what’s best for our baby. So why don’t we carry on that thinking after the baby is born? Most expecting moms realize the benefits exercise has for them while pregnant and will make that extra effort to workout. Same goes with our nutrition and avoiding unhealthy behaviors. Of course, a baby changes everything and our focus innately shifts. But it’s important to know that we don’t have to be attached with an umbilical cord for our healthy behaviors to benefit our children. Feeling good physically and mentally undoubtedly makes us better at parenting. Laurie and I could do our own study that surveys our children’s opinion of us as moms before and after a workout. Trust us, they prefer the post-workout mommy. Besides, it all comes around anyway. Our children grow up watching us take care of ourselves and pursuing fitness, which means they’re more likely to grow up fit and healthy, too. And what mom doesn’t want that for her kids?

What has surprised you the most about being a fit mom?

KT: When I became a mother I felt that my kids limited my fitness options, and I let them to a certain extent, because I was still trying to accomplish the same fitness routine I had before having children. But after I started to get creative and expand my fitness options, whether that meant doing a workout with my kids around or trying a new group fitness class because it worked around the nap schedule, fitting in workouts became easier. So in this sense, children didn’t impose limits, they gave me more options. And now I feel more well-rounded, challenged and excited about exercise.

Aside from personal health and wellness, what’s another benefit to being a fit mom?

KT: Being a fitness mentor for your kids. Whether I’m leaving them behind to pursue a workout or including them in, I know I’m showing my children that fitness is a family value. When I workout it really isn’t “me time” anymore, I’m also setting a good example for my children.

What’s your favorite way to get sweaty?

KT: That’s like asking me which child I like most! I can’t possibly name favorites. Besides, I have exercise ADD. Running, snowshoeing, swimming, cycling, Zumba, Yoga. Whatever I can escape to do or whatever I can do with one to four kids along is my favorite exercise of the moment.

 

Sister Act

Monday, November 14th, 2011

By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom

It seems like yesterday we were bickering about which one of us deserved the privilege of sitting in the front seat of the station wagon.  Whose turn it was to wash the dishes or clean up after the dogs?  Whom “borrowed” whose brand new sweater? (lip gloss? curling iron? shampoo?)  Who had a crush on which boy first?  Which one is mom and dad’s true favorite?

Sibling rivalry can get nasty.  But among sisters, it can be downright vicious.

All of these tit-for-tats ran through my mind as I plunged into the first leg of a mini triathlon race this past weekend.  It was 8am on a Saturday morning and I was sharing a chilly swimming lane with younger Sister #1.  We’re just 17 months apart and while growing up, she seemed to be my ultimate rival.  25 years ago, we could barely be in the same room let alone engage in the same activity without turning it into an all out death match.  But this time around, neither one of us was out to crush the other.  We were just doing something together.  For the fun of it.  Crazy, huh? We couldn’t help giggling just before the start, “Remember swim team?”  The last time we shared a lane, was probably during swim practice as kids.  I would venture to guess it didn’t last even one length of the pool.

But not today.  Sister #1 finished our 500 meter dash a couple of strokes ahead of me.  As I pulled myself out of the pool, I wondered just for a second, if she’d left me in the dust.  I instantly felt bad for the thought crossing my mind when I saw her patiently waiting for me to catch up.  We jumped on our bikes and pushed on.

All this – thanks to sister #2 (6 years my junior), who flew in for the weekend to pitch in.  She was spending the morning at my house chasing after my twin two-year-olds.  Sister #2 and I never got down in the dirt like Sister #1 and I.  But we certainly had our moments of tension and lots of stupid tiffs during the years we shared a bedroom.  She still loves to tell everyone about all of the beauty sleep she lost because I could never stop yapping at bedtime.

So, with sister #1 at my side and sister #2 covering the home front, this was an occasion to celebrate.  True, as the years have flown by, we’ve grown up and grown into our own individual identities.  We always talked (except for the odd blow-up here or there).  But until now, I don’t think that we appreciated each other as people and as friends.  For me, I attribute this unexpected new ground to motherhood.  I am the first child in my family and the first to have children.  I really wasn’t sure how becoming a mom would change the dynamic with my sisters.  Of course, you always hope that a new addition to the family will bring everyone closer together.  Yet after all the years of arguments and slights, I honestly wasn’t quite sure how it would all shake out.

About a year ago, I interviewed relationship expert Dr. Jenn Berman for The Well Mom about navigating new motherhood and sisterhood.  She told me that becoming a new mother doesn’t give you a free pass to be totally self-involved.  She said if you want to maintain relationships with your sister (and girlfriends) that first and foremost, you’ve got to be a good friend. “If you want to stay connected, you have to make the effort…If your single friend tells you about her wild night on the town and you are not so interested, remember she’s probably not so interested in Diaper Genies,” Berman said.

I tried my hardest to follow her advice.  And while I tried to be a good listener, my sisters did the same.  They cheered me on as I struggled to lose the baby weight and toiled with my identity shift.  And most importantly, they loved the new babies.  They took it upon themselves to shower my son and daughter with so much affection and attention.  My toddlers now have their own special relationships with Auntie M and Auntie CC.  It is so cool.  Somehow, these little people bridged all of those years of acrimony and competition with their happy dances and delighted screams at the sight of Sisters #1 and #2.  My sisters’ role in our lives has become a wonderful, unexpected gift of motherhood.

When we finally started our 4 and half mile run to round out the tri, I was getting tired.  My hip was aching – a nagging injury from carrying the kids on one side.  But Sister #1 kept reminding me why were we there.  We weren’t in it to win it.  We were doing this for fun and in a little while, we’d be celebrating over Chinese food and ice cream with sister #2, the babies and my husband.  We walked a little when I needed to slow down and talked non-stop about everything.  Her job, my work. Sister #2 (oh, and we have a brother, too), our parents, my husband and his family, everything.  Just like old pals.  As we crossed the finish line, we lagged behind the stronger athletes.  But we didn’t care.  We’d won something much more precious.

Gratitude Can Lift Your Mood

Friday, November 11th, 2011

By Heather Cabot, The Well Mom

A few weeks ago, I was really down in the dumps. My Achilles tendons burned every time I ran.  The pain was keeping me from putting in the miles I so desperately needed to keep my head on straight.  As a new homeowner, I was so overwhelmed with repairs and maintenance that my head was actually spinning. Then, after much deliberation, we made a change with our child care. And wouldn’t you know it, as soon as we parted ways with our regular sitter, I came down with a nasty case of strep throat that laid me out flat for three days.  Believe me, I know it could always be worse. But I was just plain feeling sorry for myself.

As I shivered in bed and prayed for the pounding headache to subside before the end of the school day, I had my first chance in a while to think about how lucky I am.   My children’s pediatrician treated me since I didn’t have a doctor in our new town.  A new friend offered to take the kids to school one morning.  My sister-in-law whisked away my twin five year olds for an impromptu play date so I could rest a little more. My husband called me every couple of hours to make sure I was taking my meds and drinking enough fluids.  My work colleagues cancelled my appointments and didn’t send me email.  The kids pretended to take my temperature and write me prescriptions.  And of course, my mom, my best friend and my sisters all checked in with sympathetic ears. I couldn’t have been more grateful for the circle of support I’ve managed to build over the years and even after a few months of moving (yet again!) to a new home and new community.

A few days later, when I finally regained my strength to exercise again, I ventured outside with fresh perspective on the challenges that had weighed me down so much the weeks prior.  Suddenly, I noticed the leaves had really changed.  I took a deep breath.  As I set out on an easy jog, I felt a renewed sense of thankfulness for my health and what my body can do.  The few days off helped my tendonitis.  My head was definitely in a more optimistic place and I know that taking time to be grateful was the reason.   Through the years, The Well Mom has featured life coaches and other experts who’ve touted the benefits of keeping gratitude journals or simply scribbling down a few thoughts about thankfulness as a means to keeping an upbeat outlook.  As we head into Thanksgiving, and the stresses that come along with traveling and entertaining, I’m going to try to carve out more time to reflect and enjoy the things that make my life so rich – my family, my health, my country and community.  I hope you have time to do the same.

What are you grateful for? Please share!